(Closed) MARRIED BEES: Would you do it all over again?

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

See, I didn’t take OP question as would you do a second time or redo.

I took it more as knowing what you know now. If you were able to go back would you still do the wedding you did? Or would you have eloped, had a smaller wedding, etc.

But I could be wrong.

In that case if it was do a second time. No, I loved our wedding just the way it was!

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I would have eloped instead if I could redo it. My husband and I wanted to, but knew that our family would never have it, so we had a wedding. We should have just did what we wanted, not cared what everyone else thought, and had a party later. The funny thing was, I knew I wouldn’t regret eloping throughout the whole wedding process.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Absolutely!  Although I’d have figured out a way for pictures to have been a little more organized so we’d have had more posed pics.

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

 No way! I don’t mean to sound like a debby downer but my wedding was more of a wreck then a magical chapter in my life.

 Having our reception site pull out on us 6 weeks before the wedding, AFTER we printed and was getting ready to send out all the invites.

My dress that I ordered getting lost and then come to find out NEVER GOT MADE! This was 4 weeks before the wedding.

Having everyone leave my reception by 8pm because our DJ stunk monkey butt! And even though the reception was on Lake Michigan which was beautiful, this meant that no one stayed inside at my reception. My guests were scattered about a mile in each direction going down the beach. Some swimming in the water.

 Oh dear I could keep going on and on. I did still love my day and getting married. I just wouldn’t do it over again!

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Twista:

OMG> I was an absolute Stalin (as my husband kiddingly told me) during family portrait.

I would smile for pictures, talk really loudly to get my mom, brother, Maid/Matron of Honor, ILs going on gathering the next family. Making sure their ready. At one point there was a long line of people just waiting.

But hey I got ALL family members done! With 15 minutes to mingle with guests during cocktail hour. Score!

Post # 37
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Honey bee

I don’t think my wedding day was ‘the best day ever’ – but it was an incredibly special day that I’d redo in a heartbeat.  All the stress and planning was well worth it.  

I was a little concerned that post-wedding I’d wish I would have just eloped instead… but I’m SO glad that we had the big party!

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

absolutely! i mean, there are tiny things i’d do differently, but yes. totally.

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Private home

I’d do it again – I’d change little things, but all the stress was worth it to have a wonderful day with the people I love

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I probably would have eloped.  I LOVED our wedding, but I don’t think it was worth all the money, stress and time.

Post # 41
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I really loved planning my wedding. I would have changed some insignificant details (wedding cake was rather ugly, some more pictures with friends and family..) but the day itself was perfect.

Post # 42
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Are you asking if I would do everything the same?

I would never want to do it again period!  I would just want to get quietly married, and that is what I ended up doing.  So in that sense, I would do things the same- except I would elope in the first place.  All in all, would not want to repeat the experience.  Except when DH was saying his vows- he was calm, sincere, happy, and confident.  It made me feel really good, and then he couldn’t get the ring out of his pocket and it went rolling away under the altar…

I don’t want to sound like a downer either, but I do like the idea of getting quietly married.  I am sure if I had a different situation, I might feel differently.

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would change a few things!!!! I would have gotten the tables and chairs a couple days before, so I could have done the flowers earlier, so the rehearsal would start on time. So then I wouldn’t continue making flowers after, so I could enjoy the dinner with my family and friends….without the stress! lol.

Post # 44
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Honey bee

Honestly, I am of the opinion that the planning process was a pain in the you-know-what, but if I had it to do over… I totally would.

DH was NOT into the whole wedding process. He didnt understand why I wanted a wedding or why we needed one. He was more of a “let’s just go to the courthouse and get it over with” kind of guy but one of the best moments of the whole day was when we sat down to eat dinner at our sweetheart table and he looked at me and said “You know what? I totally understand why you wanted this now. I’m so glad we did this.” It was priceless. Our wedding ended up being wonderful for both of us and we both really, really enjoyed it.

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I LOVED our wedding.  However, if I had to do it again (and if it were my money paying for it), I would find a favorite restaurant with a great private room.  However many the room could hold that would limit our guest list.  I probably wouldnt have paid for a DJ and I would have spent more time taking pictures.  

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

YES!!  Just like everyone else, I wish the day hadn’t gone by so quickly, my bustle ripped (but only a little), wish some more pictures had been taken.  However, there is very little I would have done differently.  It was a great day!

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