(Closed) MARRIED BEES: Would you do it all over again?

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I prob would have just flown somewhere and invited our parents only and grandparents..and gotten married there, lol.

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I would!  I was not a fan of wedding planning at all either, but we had the perfect day.  I wouldn’t have changed anything, but I am sooooo glad that it is all done and I am loving married life. 

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@stephinPA: You might be surprised. There was a few pictures that I thought we forgot and was pretty bummed about but when I saw all my photos they were there!  There’s only 1 picture that wasn’t but was just so excited that the other 2 were.

Post # 50
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yes! I would absolutely do it all again. The only thing that I wished then and still wish now was that our wedding could have been a small one. There were a lot of people that my in laws made us invite that we had no idea who they were and it wasn’t something that I had wanted.

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am in total wedding withdrawl and would LOVE to do it again!!! It was sooo amazing!!

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Hm…I’m not sure. I really enjoyed our wedding, but I probably would have done something less expensive with more people.

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I loved my last-minute JoP “let’s just do this” wedding.  It was extremely impromptu, completely unplanned, stress free, drama free, and full of excitement!  No fuss, no muss, extremely inexpensive, with an enjoyable “reception” at our favorite restaurant.  I would relive it in a heartbeat and wouldn’t change a thing!   

I am not envious of my friends who had a traditional wedding.  I see what they went through and am glad I had none of that! 

Post # 54
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Yep!!! Even though 8 days before the wedding my family member and caterer who has done millions of events before cancelled and two days before the wedding the same family member told me that the preacher she had to marry us was booked. 

 

Yeah that type of day.  But as Bakerella stated there was NO way I would have known.  The family member was actually very close and came through in other ways but is under a high amount of stress due to my dad’s illness.  We also ran out of time to pick up my wedding bands before the wedding but when I was walking down the aisle I forgot it all.  None of it mattered and go figure no one even asked to see my ring.  My mom’s mom had her pastor marry us and we found a caterer so it all worked out.

Post # 55
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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@Amani:

 

Amen to that!  We ended up with such a low turnout, we ended up overspending at the wrong time.

Definitely would do the Vegas thing if I had it to do over.

Post # 56
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Absolutely not.  My wedding was beautiful but felt like an event/production for everyone else to enjoy.  Wish we would’ve have eloped with our amazing photog in tow and kept it private and just for us.  I hated being a bride but truly love being a newlywed.

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If I could do it all over again, I would try to enjoy the planning process more. I didn’t really enjoy it. As for the day of, I really can’t think of anything I would change. It went off without a hitch!

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

HELL YES. Even though there are a million tiny details I’d go back and change.

But yes. Even if I couldn’t change a thing…it was still the most amazing day ever.

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

There were a few times during the planning process when i said to my Fiance, “Now I know why people elope!”  But would I do it all again?  Probably, but this time I would take anti anxiety meds in the months leading up to it and I would choose a different wedding coordinator!

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

You know, I’m going to amend my previous answer to “if I could do it over I’d have a simple church ceremony with a dress purchased at Ross followed by cupcakes at my Mom’s house.” It isn’t that I didn’t like my wedding, just that it was such a hoopla….and it really didn’t need to be. It didn’t really feel all that special. Maybe I’ll feel differently once the pictures and video come back.

Post # 61
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would do almost everything the same.

I loved my wedding and have no regrets, but there are some little things I wish I could have changed or prevented… like the fact that my entire family (with the exception of my parents and sister) left immediately after eating. People I barely even knew (i.e. my mom’s friends) stayed longer than my own relatives! Heck, my grandparents didn’t even stay for a piece of cake! I even offered to have the staff pack up a couple pieces for them, but they were in such a rush to leave, they said no! It really hurt my feelings to come back from doing portraits (which took maybe 30 minutes) and see that 90% of my guests had left, and most of those were related to me. Only a few bothered to pop outside to say goodbye. (We had so much rental time left at the venue, hubby and I sat in a corner and opened all our presents while some friends and my remaining family members watched!)

There were other little things – one of the groomsmen was late, there was a mixup with the music, the cake was displayed backward… but none of those things are a really huge deal, in hindsight.

So if I could go back and change things, I’d set the wedding start time a little later so I could do portraits ahead of time, and maybe have kept my family members from leaving right away (because I would have been around to talk to). Or, if I knew for certain that nothing I did would make them stay longer, I would have had a destination wedding on a beach somewhere… so they wouldn’t have even needed to be inconvenienced by attending.

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