(Closed) Married Bees…if you could go back and re-do your registry…

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m not married yet but I did a TON of research before I set up our registry. I LOVE this blog called Young House Love, and their post on wedding registry regrets was super helpful: http://www.younghouselove.com/2012/07/registry-dos-and-dohs/

I followed their advice and registered for simple white dishes that go with everything, white cloth napkins, fluffy white towels (don’t look worn out like colored towels do after awhile), several good knives rather than a knife block (I picked out one chef’s knife, one bread knife, and 3 paring knives), and some other things. The best advice I’ve gotten is seriously only register for things you will use – don’t assume that your cooking habits and lifestyle will change once you get married. A lot of couples get overly ambitious and register for tons of cookingware, even when the neither person doesn’t like to cook. Also, think about how much space you have in your kitchen and plan accordingly. If you don’t have a lot of space, register for appliances that can do multiple things, and don’t get an appliance if you think it may collect dust for most of the year. I’ve been living on my own for several years and gotten by with just a toaster and a blender, so we are upgrading to an immersion blender, but that’s it – not registering for a toaster oven, food processor, coffee maker (we’re tea drinkers), panini grill, etc.

My mom made sure we registered for several sets of sheets – she still has a couple sheet sets from my parents’ wedding 30 years ago. Pick neutral colored ones that will last forever, and switch out the duvet covers when you get tired of a certain look.

I do a ton of cooking and the things I use the most are my Pyrex set (basically this – http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/pyrex-food-storage-containers-18-piece-bake-prep-set?ID=540879&cm_mmc=Google_Feed_pla_pe-_-adtype-pla-_-target-19586772875-_-kw-&gclid=COGI-Nqrv7ICFU6mPAodFT8ACg – and the lids are great for putting away food!!), a cutting board, strainer, knives, and basic kitchen utensils (this – http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/oxo-kitchen-tools-15-piece-set?ID=472352&CategoryID=47101#fn=sp%3D1%26spc%3D115%26ruleId%3D52%26slotId%3D3 – is the best and still looks brand new after several years!).

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Amazon’s registry helper is really great for giving ideas on what you would need.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We decided not to register for China- rather, we got nice white dishes (MUCH cheaper!) that we will use for nicer dinners with friends/special occasions/holidays along with whatever cheaper colored or designed dishes I pick up at the time to pretty up the table setting. Several colors for napkins and placemats to change up the look, and a nice silverware set that will last. We also got some really nice serving platters that are solid white. We have a cheaper set of dishes and utensils that we use daily when it’s just us eating a quick meal. I’d rather get my kitchenaid than china that I’ll be afraid to use!!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I got too many dishtowels! I registered for 5 of each, but they didn’t all fit in my drawer. I think 3 big dish towels would have been better and 4 small dish cloths.

I wish I would have registered on a universal registry where I could have added stuff from etsy. Like those “Pink Magnolia family est. 2011” wood plaques on etsy. I really wanted that and no one bought it for me because it wasn’t on my registry. Or I’m a sucker for monogrammed pillows and personalized stuff, but my BBB registry wasn’t personalized.

One thing that I love daily is my shiny Oneida silverware. Eating off new silverware is fun! lol My old stuff was very dingy in comparison.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I got 36 towels!  I didn’t expect to get every one.. It was from my bridesmaids,, yes my bridesmaids. Undecided

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Here are a few things that come to mind for me:

I would have registered for fewer sets of towels.  When I was single, I had four sets, so that I could always have at least one set in the linen closet, one set in the bathroom, and up to two sets in the laundry at any given time.  However, what I did not consider was the fact that I would never be able to stand to allow that much laundry to accumulate for more than one person. Now, I have one set in the bathroom, two sets in the linen closet, and one in the laundry (until I then have three sets in the linen closet.) I still haven’t used about half of our master bath towels.

I also wish I had registered for a really good vacuum.  Darling Husband had an allegedly good vacuum, and I had three not-so-good ones, so I didn’t even think to register for yet another. My two, very cheap Dirt Devils stopped being effective and even caused problems.  My other vacuum has a broken part that allows me to only use the small attachments, and DH’s “good” vacuum died.  So we ended up buying a Dyson, which I love, but they’re SO expensive! (I would not have expected any single guest or couple to buy us something that expensive, but, had we registered for one, perhaps some of our family may have decided to combine their resources to purchase that type of a gift for us, or we would have been able to have purchased it through our registry programs.) 

I did register for a lot of Calphalon pots and pans, and I only received one. In hindsight, I am SOOOOOOOOO thankful that I only received one, because I discovered that they cannot go into the dishwasher. (Don’t ask me how I learned this lesson, hahaha.)  Make sure that you’re willing to maintain and care for the things for which you register in a manner in keeping with the manufacturer’s instructions.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would go back and register for one set of hight thread count sheets, like maybe 800 thread count or up.  I would register for maybe 6 towels total.  I would register for corelle dishes.  I would register for an amazing vaccum.  Now, let me explain why.  We had been together for 5 years pre wedding so we decided against a registry since we had all the things you build a home together with.  We didn’t need toasters or all that jazz.  So we didn’t register for anything.  We told anyone who asked that if they would like to get a gift, just do so, we weren’t inviting anyone who didn’t know us very well.  So.  While this worked in some ways (we got an amazing piece of framed art from an artist friend that had our initials and wedding date and some crazy cool celtic knots) in other ways, not so much,  I think people like to be told why to buy other wise, you get nothing.  So we got quite a lot of nothing, which is reall okay, as it’s not about gifts, but still… woulda been nice to get some new stuff! Now, months after the wedding, i’m looking at our stuff again, our chipped plates, our mismatched and ratty towels, our dated bedding, our crappy vaccum… it all is servicable, but new would have been great.  I say register for anything you want and will use!!

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@katie395:  I just have to add that I also registered for a lot of Lenox “Orchard in Bloom” metalware to use as fancy serving pieces when I use my good china. (The serving pieces for our china were just ridiculously priced, and I couldn’t imagine having platters that cost more than $300, etc., so that’s why I chose to do this.)

About a year after we were married, I had a casual, fourth of July party but INSISTED that I use these gorgeous, new, serving pieces.  After the party, I loaded about half of them into the dishwasher along with my other dishes.  At the end of the cyle, I opened the dishwasher, and to my sheer horror, discovered that I had completely ruined them!!! The finish not only came off of the metalware, making the pieces look hideous and feel like — and I hate to do this to you all — fingers on a chalkboard, but also the finish that dissolved in the dishwasher became a black film all over the other dishes. 

I THEN went to check those little pieces of paper that came inside the serving pieces and saw “DO NOT PLACE IN DISHWASHER” written on them. Oops.

Because so many special people had given us those serving pieces, and because I really wanted them, I took money out of savings to re-purchase everything that was ruined.  THAT was a very pricey little lesson for me.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper

I would have registered for a larger variety of some nicer pots and pans. We registered for a great “starter” set that has done us well, but we’ve recently been finding a need for a roasting pan and some different versions of frying pans, etc. It might help to look through a cookbook and see what kinds of cookware you’ll need. I think we weren’t really prepared to register for all the different pieces we might *someday* need.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

The best advice I can give is to register for things that are an upgrade from what you would buy yourself if given the cash, even if you don’t think you’ll use it all right away. It will be worth it in the long run since they will last you a lot longer.

Also, do not register for anything like picture frames or vases since you will get a TON of these from people who don’t want to buy off your registry or give you cash.

The things I am SOO glad I put on our registry were the calphalon pots and pans, wustof knives, pottery barn plates and silverware and crate and barrell bowls, serving platters and bakeware. I use all of it every single day and they’re definitely more than what I would have spent if I bought it all myself with wedding cash. And even though I don’t use the kitchenaid mixer, I’m really glad I registered for it because I know I will eventually use it OR at least I have the option of selling it for a good return if I don’t.

I could have done without some of the glassware I put on the registry. It is nice to have tons of glassware, but I find it takes up a lot of space and breaks pretty often so you end up buying new stuff anyway. All of the expensive riedel wine glasses we got are now broken, that was a total waste.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Brielle:  Lol please tell the Calphalon pot story!!!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

Don’t forget to register for the little things like dish towels, measuring cups, potato peeler (the things you need for everyday cooking IMO), it may seem small, but you will appreciate them. Register for what you really want and will use, I have found people tend to be generous and some people go in for group gifts. Think about how you will use things and how often- will you have a lot of people over for holidays/ parties or will it just be the 2 of you- I received duplicates of a few things, like glassware, but it worked out in the end because glasses break and we will be having lots of family over in the future. Be careful what you register for and that the items are not online exclusives, I didn’t realize a lot of my items on one registry were this and by the time I realized,  it was too late. Also, if possible go in the store to register so you can actually see and feel the items, some items I added online and then later saw in the store made me change my mind and switch out items.

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