(Closed) Married before 30

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
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664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I was hopelessly single through most of my 20’s. I wanted to be married before I turned 30, but didn’t see how it would happen. Then about 4 months before I turned 29, I met an amazing man. We  started dating, fell in love, and got married exactly one week before I turned 30. Once I knew I was going to marry my husband, it didn’t matter when we got married. I would have been content to turn 30 and not have been married… but I’m glad we didn’t wait. Being married is more amazing than I expected!

There’s hope ladies! And turning 30 really wasn’t the big deal I thought it was going to be.

Post # 33
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Bee Keeper

I wanted to be married before 30 but it is not happening. I will actually be 30 on my wedding day but turning 31 a few weeks later. It doesnt seem like a big deal now that I know I will be geting married but it was a bigger deal when I was 26 and saw no marriage plans or a guy in sight!!

Post # 34
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1089 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

oh this is so me, I’m 28 SO is about to turn 28, I always thought I’d be married by 25 but considering the fact that I met SO when I was 25 (3 months before I turned 26) that was kinda impossible lol Now I’m on his case to propose before December (HE HAS THE RING! But no plans on when he wants to propose yet) when I turn 29, so we can be married by the time I’m 30 because I have PCOS and if we want kids we’d better get crackin!

Post # 35
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323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know the feeling! I’m 29, but really feeling the pressure of 30. I understand that it’s just a number, but I really thought by 30, I would be in a much different place. Don’t get me wrong, things are good, but I was expecting marriage, and kids. I was in a really bad relationship that lasted 8 yrs and ended bad; and came so close to making the biggest mistake of my Life! but all of that time wasted and I feel that I don’t have anymore time to waste and need to get things going …..and my biological clock has been ticking forever it seems! 

 

Post # 36
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1114 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I used to want to be married by 25 and have my first kid by 30. I’m 27 now, and it looks like I’ll be 29 when I get married, and it will still be a few years after that before I have kids. Now I figure things will happen when they happen.

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I know this feeling well. I just turned 29 last month and even though I’m now engaged, I realized that by the time the wedding rolls around I will be 30 years old. I know age is just a number, and I know it’s dumb to compare our lives with friends and family, but it’s still a feeling that looms on the corner of my mind. I’m a very independent, nontraditional sort of person, and I know that if I had made it into my 30’s without any prospect of being engaged, I would have been pretty down on myself. And with no good reason too.

I think facebook makes things worse because you see all the other people from your graduating class in high school and all the girls are married and have changed their names or their profile pictures are of their kids. And here I am just now getting engaged. But I’m okay with that. I don’t want kids any time soon and I am 100% happy with the path my life has taken. Actually, it’s been perfect. 

Post # 38
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487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not in this situation – I will be married this year and I’ll be 28. But what I find quite disturbing is that I know several girls around the same age as me who are absolutely desperate to get married before they’re 30 – and ALL these girls are single! There’s not a lot of time left to find Mr. Right, but some are saying they feel they’ll have to just settle with anyone in order for this to happen which I find very very disturbing. Why would anyone settle with someone they weren’t happy with just to say they’re married before 30?!

Even worse are the several girls I know who claim they have pacts with male friends that if they’re not married by 30 (or in some cases 40) they will marry them. I just don’t get it – they’re obviously not wanting to have a relationship with these male friends or spend the rest of their lives with them or they’d already be dating right? I’m guessing it’s just for the experience of a wedding, but surely there’s nothing nice about walking down the aisle to someone you don’t love or who you know is only marrying you because they couldn’t find someone better in their alloted time. And if they divorce soon after and THEN meet Mr. Right, the whole wedding thing loses it’s special shine surely.

Baffles me beyond belief!

Post # 39
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1447 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Men do have a biological clock, it just doesn’t kick in until the late 30s or early 40s.  Even so, while there are anecdotes of men being able to father children late in life (Orlando Bloom’s father was 70ish when Orlando was born!), men do experience declining fertility as they get older.  I’ve been on some dates before with guys over 35 and their desperation is palpable as ours in our late 20s/early 30s.  So if you are single and want to get married, that is your target demograph!

 

I would really have liked to get married by 30, but it’s not going to happen.  At least, I’m pretty certain that it’s not going to happen (turning 29 tomorrow, recently single).  In my head, if I want to have two kids by 35 it just makes sense to get married around 30.  I gave up two opportunities to get married in my 20s because neither guy was right for me, so I don’t believe that my desire to get married is necessarily driven solely by wanting a party or a rock on my finger or to have someone to come home to at night; I want to be with the right person!

 

I’m actually pretty OK with not being with my ex anymore, although we did have a good run of things and for a long time I thought he was “the One” for me.  In our last conversation we had together he had flip-flopped on supporting me in my move out and the thing turning into a LDR (when it was happening he was very encouraging/supportive – the other night he literally said, “if you didn’t move out there we would be engaged”, which I don’t think is true), and he said some things that made me think that *nothing* I could do or not do would inspire him to propose.  So.  Here I am.  It’s kind of liberating to know that I have no clue what Life is going to give me next, but at the same time it’s also pretty scary, because what if Life doesn’t have kids in my future?  I think that would be pretty sad, and I’m not ready to give up hope for having a solid relationship and children in my life.

Post # 40
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’m 27 and have been with my SO 5 years (ok, will be at the end of May). Kind of thought I would be engaged/married and have a house by age 30 but now not so sure. SO has a loose timeline of “probably within a year or so” for the engaged/married bit and we need to save up a crapload of money for both anyway. I have work friends that are in a similar situation – bought a house age 30, now getting married at age 32. It’s been hard to accept that things are not happening on the timeline I wanted them to, but now that I’m pretty much over that, it’s more like…it’s gonna happen…when it happens, it happens. 

Post # 41
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2127 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I felt that way too…I got a proposal on my 28th b-day and was DYING to get hitched before 30, but it didn’t work out that way, we are finally getting married, but it will be 3 months after my 30th b-day…oh well! It doesn’t seem like such a big deal now. 

Even if you get a proposal tomorrow, who knows how many speed bumps you could run into with trying to plan a wedding. We thought we were going to get married the following summer, but life happens. 

Post # 42
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2127 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Spoonie:  I have quite a few friends who are panicking too….and recently have seen a crop up of engagements among my almost 30 friends. lol….and some of them haven’t been in stable relationships for very long and practically drove the guy to the ring shop and paid for it themselves. 

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

YES!! I’m 28, and last time we talked about it I said “this is so lame, but I just want to get married before I’m 30.” he kind of giggled at me.

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