(Closed) Married before the wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
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  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it’s just fine! We considered the same thing at one point during planning as well, with having our dads officiating, but it ended up working out.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MissP_Bee:  Well, it’s different everywhere unfortunately. Our state law said that any county clerk, judge, retired judge or county clerk, or anyone so permitted by the church that you attend can legally perform wedding ceremonies. Since my Father-In-Law is an elder at our church, he got it ok’d through the church and the state.

    So he’s a pastor, but they won’t let him do the service where you are?

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t see a problem with it.  It’s a logistical/technical hiccup.  I think the 2 events are close enough that it won’t come off as though you were secretly married beforehand and hiding it.  I think most people get upset only when couples get legally married months before the wedding but then lie to friends and family and claim they aren’t.

     

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MissP_Bee:  I’d double check with your county/state. Is there a church of a similar kind or denomination in your area? Maybe if they gave the ok, it would satisfy the government?

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee

    I’m curious, did you work this out?

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We’re probably going to do something similar. Definitely smart and a good idea!

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We did this for many reasons.  One of the big ones was its so easy to do in CO and not so much in MA.  And we live in CO now so it just made sense.  We are having the religious ceremony and party next year in MA.  We didnt have to do a courthouse thing though we just walked in and signed paperwork, checked the self box and paid the licence fee.  Done.

    I think its smart.  It ensures you get the legal stuff out of the way. 🙂

    Post # 15
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    Newbee

    @Mrs Christopher:  +1

    It is not uncommon around here to get the legal stuff out of the way before the official ceremony, in fact because of our circumstances we will also like Mrs Christopher be having the ceremony a few months after the actual legal marriage, a couple of days doesn’t sound bad at all, unless it was important to you that is.

    Post # 16
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - The bride's hometown United Methodist Church near Kalamazoo

    I think in your situation it’s a very smart thing to do. The only time I would question getting married before the actual wedding is if you lied/hid it from your family and friends, but you’re clearly not doing that. I think they would still all see the wedding AS the wedding: you’re doing it for a techincal/logistical reason that makes perfect sense, and all power to you!!

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