- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
So P and I have been together for about 5 years now, and we have been engaged since October, very exciting! Our plan so far is to get married next Fall in Vegas, a destination wedding, expecting 80-100 people to show. Anyways…that is sooo far away!
I am a student, currently no part time job, but actively looking. But my big thing is I have no insurance of any kind. And most likely any job I get will be part time and those usually don’t offer insurance. I need to have some dental work done (my wisdom are teeth have been super painful for a few months now), I am scared of getting sick and not being able to afford the medicine, and there is always that lurking thought of if anything serious happened to me I would be in bad trouble.
So we are thinking about getting married within the next couple months, just going to the courthouse, no big deal, but keeping our wedding as is. But here are my concerns:
1) I don’t want people to not come to our wedding because we will already be married (for example, last summer we went to his best friends wedding in Florida, and they had legally married about two months before the actual wedding. On the way there I heard his other married couple friends say they thought it was so weird we were all going to this wedding when the couple was already married. And I was thinking, “uhm, no I don’t think so…”)
2) I am scared that after we are married we will both just kinda settle and not go through with the wedding (which I REALLY do want!)
3) We have thought about keeping it a secret, not telling many people, but WHO should we tell (our parents of course, although I am concerned about how his mother would react, she basically thinks this whole wedding business is stupid, and I am pretty sure she would definitely not see the point in having a wedding AFTER your married)
4) I don’t want it to take away from the wedding, you know all the ooey gooey feelings and such.
So what are your thoughts? Who else has done this? I know this is kind of a popular idea so I would love to hear from you.