(Closed) married, but now having the ceremony do we still need an offciant

posted 12 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

The main reason for having an actual "officiant" is to have someone who is qualified to sign (and file) the marriage license.  If you already have your paperwork, and are married as far as the government is concerned, the only other reason to have an actual "officiant" would be their familiarity with the ceremony – in that someone who has done it a few times before will be much easier to work with as far as getting everything said in a way that will sound like a wedding to your family and friends.  If you have a friend or family member who you think would do a nice job, and you’re willing to work with them to write a ceremony, there is no reason not to have them do it. 

Post # 4
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2020

You don’t need to do anything specific. When you were married at the courthouse, did you give the marriage license to the magistrate and then to the registry of deeds? Do you now have a mariage certificate?

If you answered yes to all the above, all you need to do is to have the officiant you want to have, a friend, a minister, whatever makes you happy.

That’s what we did/are doing.

Post # 5
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008


We got legally married 2 years earlier than our huge ceremony and reception. We still hired a professional officiant; we just skipped all the paperwork and all the legal parts of it because it had already been done! He was able to give us a bit of a discount which was nice.

I really still wanted a professional officient for the reasons that suzanno brought up; he’s professional! He’ll make it sounds powerful, moving, and wedding-like. He’ll be familiar with it, and he was able to really personalize every aspect of it with us. We didn’t want this to be any different than if we hadn’t gotten married earlier. Plus, only family knew about this. 

Post # 6
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969


I live in Houston, and I had a legal wedding at a courthouse before having a friends and family ceremony. For the friends and family one, I wrote our ceremony and had my uncle perform it-he is not an “official” officiant. It’s perfectly legal for you to do the same, so if you want to, go for it!

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