Post # 1
So, we have close newlywed friends who recently decided to take in a roommate (a friend of the bride). Not for financial reasons (her parents pay the rent and utilities for them). Would you take in a roommate?
This is completely different from couples who move in with family or friends to save money or take care of someone who is ill or elderly.
We have another set of friends (two couples) who are considering renting a house together. I guess Darling Husband and I just wouldn’t feel comfortable and feel like the whole situation would just be really stressful. (Who grocery shops? Who cleans what? If you’re making dinner, do you make enough for everyone?)
Just curious to hear other opinions. Or experiences if you’ve done this – maybe we’ve got it all wrong and we’re missing out!
Post # 3
Never! I hated having roommates when i was single! Part of the best part about living with my partner is NO STUPID ROOMMATES!
Post # 4
Yes we would. Actually since first moving in together we have had 4 roommates – DHs cousin, twin sister, best friend and my older brother. My older brother was actually living with us in a townhouse at the time we got married and continued for the first 4 months of our marriage. Didnt bother us one bit. We almost took in another roommate recently (a friend from GA who has a temp job in DC) but they ended up finding a sublet elsewhere. It’s not an ideal situation, but if we are able to help out a family member or a friend then we will do it. Also – DHs best friend lived with us in a 2 bedroom 1 bathroom SMALL apartment for 4.5 months. That was the only roommate situation that I actually got annoyed with because there was just no room.
ETA – We would not want another couple living with us as our current house is relatively small and to me that would be awkward. Only one other person at a time please! We arent out looking for roommates, but if someone needs a place to live for a bit then we are open to it.
Post # 5
Hell no. DH and I are getting used to living together and learning each other’s habits. That’s hard enough. No way in the world would I add in another person(s) to the mix.
As far as I’m concerned, one of the big differences between a roommate and my husband is that if my husband pisses me off, we can have makeup sex. That’s not the case with a roommate.
Post # 6
Not now. Like GreenEyed said, we’re still getting used to living with *eachother* and it would not be fun to have to adjust to other people at the same time! Plus, we would NOT like to have to plan loud-you-know-what around when our roommate(s) was not home!
Post # 7
No way! I hated both of the roommates I had before I got married and my sister and my husband are the only two people I’ve ever lived with that it worked out well haha. It would kill our intimacy and make us feel like we’d have to walk on eggshells to avoid using the roomies shampoo, laundry detergent, toothpaste,etc. being married you just use it if it’s there and you go on with your life, no toes to step on, wouldn’t trade that for a roommate again for anything!
Post # 8
We’re not married yet but we live together and I’m in the “oh haellllllll no” camp personally.
Post # 9
One of my favorite things about being married that I’ve tod Darling Husband is, “I’m SO glad I never have to look for roommates again!” haha…
Post # 10
Only like if we knew someone who NEEDED a place to stay and couldn’t afford it on their own or something. Like a SUPER close friend or a sibling. We had a roommate last year – from when we were still “just dating” to about halfway through our engagement.
Post # 11
We did and we actually really enjoyed it. DH and his brother had an apt together before I moved to Australia and the three of us just decided to keep living together after I arrived. We lived together for 5 months before the wedding and for 3 months after the wedding and it was great!
It wasn’t really a financial decision, it was just the way things were and we liked all living together. BIL was out often enough that Darling Husband and I had plenty of time on our own but we actually really enjoy his company so we did a fair bit of stuff just the three of us. Also, it doesn’t hurt that when Darling Husband and I met, it was on a three week holiday that BIL was also on – so from the start, Darling Husband, BIL, and I have always gotten along brilliantly.
Darling Husband and I now live on our own and love it – I think it would be hard to go back to living with a roommate as we’re fully established in our own lives, but we are really glad we had that time together living with BIL for a while.
Post # 12
My initial thought was no way! But I realized, Darling Husband kind of does have roommates. He has to have a place of residence in a particular town for his job. He’s just renting a room there from an eldery lady, and there’s another person who is doing the same thing. So I guess he does have roommates.
Post # 13
We’ve had a houseguest who has overstayed their welcome (multiple times)… there’s NO WAY I could deal with a roommate. I hated having roommates when I was single, I can’t imagine doing it while married!
Post # 14
No I wouldn’t. I love having the house with just us 2 here. We brought a house together 5 years before getting married so are too used to it being just us now – it would be so hard to have other people here too.
Post # 15
I’m not married, but I can tell you that it would never happen now or after October comes around. We both enjoy our privacy.