(Closed) Married Couples – Would you live with a roommate?

posted 10 years ago in Home
  • poll: Would you take in a roommate?

    Yes, but just one other person

    Yes, but only if it was another couple

    No way!

  • Post # 46
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My fiance and I have lived with at least one other roommate together for a whole year, and its going to continue after we’re married.  This area is too expensive to get our own place just now and its a great way to save up so that when we do find our own place it won’t have to be a small rental, it can be a house.  Our room is the master bedroom and its on the other side of the apt from my othder roommates so it won’t be an issue when we ‘want to be alone’…all in all our roommates are cool with it too.  They’ve been my friends for a looooong time and they and cool with him too, so all in all its a good situation :3

    Post # 47
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    DH and I wouldn’t do it simply because we still live in a one-bedroom condo and we’ve never lived together with anyone else. I’m not sure we could handle it! 

    But before we moved in together, I lived with roommates in a house. It was with my friend and her boyfriend at the time, and sometimes there was a 4th person. They kept me around while they were engaged and even after they got married, but I was also ready to move in with (now) DH and left a few months after they got married. That roommate relationship worked out well though, fortunately. But I think more often than not, it would be more difficult or hard on the relationships than anything.

    Post # 48
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We took in my husband’s friend for about 6 months.  He got a job transfer and was engaged.  His Fiance had a house but they didn’t want to live together until after they were married.  Plus he was in the middle of his MBA.  We have an upstairs and don’t use the area.  So it was much much more quiet for him to study at our house rather than her’s.  So we really didn’t see him much between seeing her, his job and night classes/studying.  

    It didn’t really bother us.  It was nice to have the time to get to know my husband’s friend.

    Post # 49
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Right now? No. In the future? Possibly. It would also depend on the particular person a lot. We have a friend couple, a few years older than us, who have an extra room (that is across the house from theirs, kind of an own wing situation) and always have a college kid living with them. It is more of a tentant/landlord sort of thing rather than a roomate thing though. I don’t think I could live with another couple, I reign in my kitchen and wouldn’t want to share. 

    Post # 50
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I’m not married, but the SO & I have lived with roommates before, and there is no way in hell that I would do it if we ever got married, unless it was a close famil member or friend who desperately needed somewhere to stay. The situation was just to hectic us. 

    Me and my BF lived together with 3 different roomates. The 1st for a little over a year with my college roommate, the 2nd for 2wks with my cousin (the roommate didn’t leave after the 2wks, but the BF & I broke up for a couple mos.), and the final roommate situation was with one of my sisters for about 8mos. It was a disaster the 1st and 3rd times, mainly because my boyfriend just sucks as a roommate. He can be a bit of an ass when it comes to things like cleaning & sharing his stuff. He’s not that way with me, but with everybody else he’s a little riduiculous. Another reason why I think it didn’t go so well was because my 1st roommate (the college roommate) & my 3rd roommate (the sister) were a little jealous of all of the time that we spent together. Both ladies were used to having me to theirselves most of the time to do girl stuff, or just barging in my room (or even the shower) to chit chat. With the boyfriend there they were forced to respect my privacy a bit more (unless they wanted to walk in on something). & I spent a lot more time with my boyfriend since he lived there, we practically did everything together. So tensions are always high between him and whoever I wasliving with, which in turn stressed me the hell out. 

    Post # 51
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Nope! To me part of the married feeling is just it being the two of us and definately being financially independent.

    Post # 52
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think what helps with my situation is that I’ve known the girls we’re living with for a long time, and they are both mellow personalities, I’m the territorial one and they don’t try and challenge me for dominance.  I’m not a tyrant mind you but I decorated the house and they like it and don’t try to go behind my back changing things to spite me lol

    And before someone expresses questions about me and my future husband living with two other girls–there is definitely no issue with them wanting to steal him or him getting tempted to them :3

    Post # 53
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    When Fiance was first divorced (6 or 7 years ago) he moved in with his BF &BF’s G/f for about a year.  The 3 of them are all pretty layed back so it wasn’t a problem. 

     I think if we did something like getting a roomate it would have to be a situation like that, someone we knew very well and was layed back. 

    Post # 54
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Nope, this doesn’t work for us!  We had to wait several months before moving into our newly purchased home, and lived with his brother and brother’s wife… it wasn’t awful but I was never comfortable… always trying to make sure we gave them enough space, we are very different meals so dinner time was always chaotic, different standards of cleaning, having personal time felt more like when you’re a disgruntled teenager and feel like you have to stay in your room.

    Though…. I lived with a different couple at one point in a very large home and that was totally cool, had lots of personal space, house to myself frequently… I wouldn’t mind doing that again.

    Post # 55
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Most likely not, but I would consider doing it as a favor to a friend in need who was willing to pay rent while living with us. If we had a house things might be different, but we live in an 800 sq ft 2 bed 1 bath apartment, so there’s really no privacy. It would definitely have to be a difinitive length of time preset and agreed on and I’m positive we would look to get our roomate moving at the end of that period.

    We are going to have our parents come visit us one set at a time for extended weekends adn that is going to be very tricky. Four people sharing one bathroom is definitely going to be a challenge, especially since our parents are used to large luxurious homes in the suburbs. So I’m sure after we go through that we’d turn down almost anyone who was begging us for a room!

    Post # 56
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Never, unless we were really struggling for money.

    Post # 57
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    OH GOD NO.

    That’s all I can really say.

    Post # 58
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We do! We love having a roommate, although ours is a very quiet one, who barely uses the kitchen and has her own floor/bathroom. Her being here allows us to save almost $600 a month- and we hardly ever see her! It works out really well for us. 

    Post # 59
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    yikes. no way. I think the only way we’d make an exception to that is if the situation were temporary, (read no more than a month or two,) and it was a close friend who really, really, really needed a place to stay.

    Post # 60
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    Busy Beekeeper

    Um no, having one from 18-23 was PLENTY of roommates for this lifetime. I thoroughly enjoy coming home to no moldy dishes in the sink, strange guys on the couch, spilled bong water, and passive aggressive notes on the fridge. Plus we have a child, so unless it was a close friend or family member I would feel completely weird about it.

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