Post # 1
Hi everyone !
My name is Kristin and I married my now husband exactly 2 weeks ago today. He came over here in a fiance visa and we knew this was how it had to be for us to be together. (We’ve known eachother over 9 years now) Anyways, we had gotten married at the courthouse with my mother and father there (his family couldn’t afford to come at the moment) . We want to have a celebration of our marriage though, and I’m wondering peoples opinions on this. I have read that people having a 2nd wedding is tacky and ridiculous. We don’t want to have a 2nd wedding, we want to celebrate with the rest of my family, friends, and his family and friends are all saving up to come over next year. I dont know about a ‘vow renewal’ ceremony after one year? Usually they seem to go every 5 or 10 years, or so I’ve read. Has anyone had to do this? Just wondering what others think. Thank you !
Post # 3
Do it! People will love to celebrate with you. I’m sure his family would love to be part of a vow renewal.
Post # 4
You can have a celebration any time you like. It just isn’t a wedding. And doesn’t have the typical wedding fixes, like attendants, showers, bachelorette parties, first dances, giving the bride away, etc.
Personally I wouldn’t do any vows either, as you’ve already done them, and I don’t really believe in renewing something that doesn’t expire. But that is really up to you.
Post # 5
@mrsrichardson12: my sister did exactly this. she had to get married in Europe so her husband could come back to Canada with her as they wanted to live here. No one was at their courthouse wedding in Europe except her DH’s brother i believe. So a year and a half later when they were settled in Canada, they had a “wedding” here. She didn’t call it a wedding of course, but a “celebration of their marriage”. And she did the whole she-bang – bridal party, ceremony with vows, first dance, cake cutting, etc. She never had a wedding like that, neither did her Darling Husband, and no one saw anything wrong with it (at least no one said anything to her or me or anyone really close to us). So i definitely don’t think there is anything wrong with going all out.
Post # 6
@mrsrichardson12: Congratulations! We are in the same boat and are totally doing a vow renewal & reception about 9 months after the event. If would have been an extreme hardship to get even family over to witness our wedding All our friends and family are keen for us to have a ceremony and celebration with them present as are we 🙂
Post # 7
ok I’ll be honest.. I am planning my “wedding” for next october but we eloped for immigration reasons last april. We will be married for 2 1/2 years before the big party. I don’t really care what others think… Our families were not able to be there and they really want to celebrate with us. I will wear a big white dress and redo a more personal ceremony and it will be refered to as a “wedding” in the invitations. I did question it at first but my family as well as his reassured me that they wanted to throw us the party. I wouldnt worry about being called tacky but if all you want is a party to have fun then do that.
Post # 8
thanks everyone, i really appreciate all of your responses! I believe we’re leaning towards a vow renewal as I know family members would like to witness it 🙂 mine and his. And then we want to have a big party to celebrate afterwards. It will be his family and friends first time here so we’re both very excited !