(Closed) Married DW Brides whose guests were REALLY spread out…Help!

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The guest thing is tough.

When I got married last summer, we did Greece (guests from all over Canada, A few in Greece and Malaysia) We talked to everyone about it before we sent the invites so we knew our max number (we also floated Greece by them, versus the Bahamas which turned out to be cheaper) We chose the venue of the ceremony. Sent invites, got RSVPS, then booked the reception based on the yes count. I found because there is more lead up to the wedding as people need notice to travel, it gave more wiggle room.

I also ended up working with a planner – who said this is what she typically does and we actually added a few seats right to day off.

Where are you getting married?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Waitingtoexhale:  Here was our rough timeline

 

Engaged April 2011 (while living abroad)

Back home July 2011

October: Had conversations with friends/family about Destination Wedding – about 40 – 50 ppl

End of November: Chose Date and country. word of mouth to friends.

January: Invites out and RSVP by March.

April: Final Booking

July: Wedding

We could have shortened the timeline – we had 1 couple bail in April.

The accomodation usually requires a deposit so thats when we found the drop out conversation happened then. I also come from a small family so I had the same concerns. In the end, we went with whoever could come great, and we had a party in our home town a month later. In hindsight. it all worked quite well.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

And we intentionally didn’t book through a resort so we could have flexibilty right to the end…as resorts tend to be packaged…

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it depends on the country and what style you are looking for. Overall, we found restaurants (especially those that are family run/not big chains) were the most flexible. They also gave the extras…for example – where we did it, they ended doubling our menu at no cost as they felt apart of the wedding. They even bought extra flowers and decor beyond what we did…We looked at hotel restaurants and the chains – they all had those pesky minimums which I didnt want to committ to… where are you having it? what country/region?

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ah New York is a tough one….any country estates? Hertiage houses or farms? That is how we did our reception – able to hire caterer/bar to come in and then the minimums changes…good luck!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Also – midweek might work too – if people are coming to you the day could be more flexible as they will be there either way – they may lower their price and minium for a Thursday, Friday or Sunday….

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

We didn’t Destination Wedding it, exactly, but all of our guests were really spread out; we called it “equal opportunity abuse” and invited everyone to come to us, since we live very roughly in the middle of all our far-flung family. So it was a “destination” for the majority of the guests, if not for us.

We put together our invitation list and just made our best guess as to who would and wouldn’t travel – and we were pretty accurate. There were a few surprised, but for the most part they balanced one another out, and we ended up with about as many people as we expected that we would.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

How much advance notice did you give your guests? We want to have a rather quick wedding, but not sure if it’s asking too much – say 8 months between invites and wedding? Is that too short? Most of our guests will need to fly internationally no matter where we have it….

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