Post # 1
Hi married bees and fellow wedding guests! After the fact, what do you wish you had planned for your wedding or wish was at a wedding? Do you have regrets? It can be anything! We’re getting marred at my church in February and holding a reception in a hotel/ballroom. Would love to hear your thoughts!
Post # 3
@D1NHER: I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding few couple years ago and the DJ offered karaoke. The only person that “sang” was the DJ’s 4 year old son. Repeatedly. I wish we didn’t have to be party to the Four-Year-Old DJ’s Son Show at M&B’s Wedding.
Post # 4
I wish we had a day of planner.. so many little details just got pushed aside becuase we forgot or didnt have time.. Could have made our wedding go from excellent to spectacular! 🙂
Post # 5
I wish I took sleeping pills the night before the wedding. I was so excited/nervous in the days leading up that I think I only got a few hours of sleep in 4 days!
Post # 6
I wish we had a GOOD day of planner. An alternative plan for a heat wave. A professional videographer.
Post # 7
I wished I would have booked more time at my venue! Our pictures were so rushed before and after the ceremony and I didn’t get nearly as many photos of the details that I worked so hard on. My coordinator was very pushy and militant about the timeline. On the day of, I was thankful but now I’m just bitter…..kidding….partially serious. Kind of.
Post # 8
I wish we hadn’t hired that wedding planner and I wish we would have had an onsite makeup artist. The wedding planner DID NOT make my vision reality. Instead, she made my wedding ALL WHITE when I asked for shades of pink!!! She also hired HORRIBLE vendors which brings me to the terrible photographer who DID NOT get basic pics (me and my parents and hubby and our kids altogether or anything like that). Because we didn’t have an onsite makeup artist, we were late for pre-ceremony portraits so we had to skip that.
Post # 9
@D1NHER: I wish the bride and groom would do a menu tasting. I have been to too many weddings where the food was just mediocre. I say to myself that if I had done a menu tasting and it tasted like that, I never would have served that to my guests.
Post # 10
Thank you ladies! This is very helpful and will take your advice.
Post # 11
I wish we would have made time for bridal portraits 🙁
We were supposed to…
But the makeup artist ran late and I was in la-la land… Totally missed doing the bridal shots. We were late enough as it was… So bummed about that.
Luckily, I only realized 2 days after the wedding (lol), so those regretful feelings didn’t overshadow my day.
Post # 12
Our day was almost perfect, everything I would change are silly little things. I got so much crap for trying to do everything myself, but everything I tried to let other people take care of didn’t get done! I even had a coordinator, but she was not that great. So I guess I would recommend vetting your coordinator thoroughly, even though she came very highly recommended. We didn’t do a first look, so I didn’t tell my husband to button his damn jacket before he walked down the aisle. I would have thought the planner would have noticed when she was lining everyone up, but unfortunately that wasn’t the case. I also wish I hadn’t assumed people knew things. Apparently no one told my mother-in-law and sister-in-law (who was a bridesmaid) that they needed to come to the rehearsal. I assumed they knew. I guess someone should have told my mother-in-law that she should arrive to the wedding before 5, since it started at 5 and she was in the processional. So I guess just don’t assume people know how weddings work…
Post # 13
I only have two regrets.
1. We didn’t make it to all the tables to greet guests. We did have a reception line at the ceremony v but I really wanted to greet everyone at their table. We definitely should have planned better for that.
2. We didn’t plan our first look, we just kind of winged it so the pictures aren’t great. However, we have tons of other good pictures so this doesn’t bug me as much as the first regret.
Post # 14
Oh! And find out who your photographer’s backup is! Our photographer became ill and wasn’t able to shoot our wedding, so a week before he had to find a replacement. I haven’t seen the pictures yet, so if they turn out well it’ll be ok, it just sucks that it was one of our biggest splurges and we ended up with a rude stranger who stole a bunch of our cupcakes! So find out what happens if your photographer can’t make it!
Post # 15
I wish I had been more generous with the wedding party. I was so laser focused on being under budget but now I feel in would have been worth $1000 to cover some of their expenses. Most of them travelled to be there and we should have taken some of the strain off since we could have made room in the budget for it if I tried.