Married for a month and i already want divorce ! HELP

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

MRSsrm85 :  At least OP, will read my post and maybe get something worthwhile from it. She would read yours and feel shittier, but hey I suppose that is what makes you sleep well at night.

As for ignoring me, that’s your call.You are not doign a good job though haha

Post # 47
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • jojo1 I’m sorry that you are having a such tough time. I’m curious was to what the reason was that you got married so quickly?
Post # 48
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662 posts
Busy bee

jojo1 :  are you from a non-western background? From your grammar and strange word choices, I would guess that English is not your first language. As such, I’m going to guess that something isn’t translating here and that there is a cultural disconnect between you/Bees and you/husband. 

If you have different views of male/female interactions than your husband and feel like you always have to “teach” him things, this might not be the marriage for you. If your values aren’t the same, it’s hard to make a relationship work.  

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I can’t help but feel that if a female bee wrote that her husband got mad at her for talking to a neighbour in the elevator, or chatting to someone listening to their favourite song and tried to stop them from talking to their brother or snooped through their phone, the general consensus would be that this is abusive and controlling behaviour.

OP, if you want to save your marriage, you need to go seek counselling ASAP.  From what you’ve said, you seem extremely insecure and you are taking it out on your husband.  Your examples look to me like you are clutching at straws.  

You are not his teacher or his mother, you are his partner.  He is your equal.  Talking to people in public regardless of their gender is completely acceptable behaviour.  Talking to his brother is acceptable.  Guy banter (which by the way his response was yes I am being faithful, my Fiance would probably write something about having a side chick in response to a friend!) is acceptable.  

 

Post # 50
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Bumble bee

jojo1 :  

Sounds like a really bad apple pie…..

I think you can get an annulment if it’s only been a month.

Post # 51
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I think you should frst see a good marriage  counsellor and see whether you can work this out or not and if it doesn’t work out then consult a good atorney who will guide you through this. My friend’s sister also faced a similar situation, so she consulted a renowned lawyer (one Mr. Bechara Tarabay. http://www.societe.com/societe/monsieur-bechara-tarabay-343059028.html ) right here in Paris and he guided her perfectly.

Post # 52
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Helper bee

Any updates on this situation?

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