(Closed) married for two months

posted 12 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t know what kind of problems you are having but it sounds like you two need counseling before deciding anything else.  It is a big adjustment getting used to spending your life with someone and it isn’t always easy.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Uh oh. 🙁

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

were you living together before you got married? i know that when i moved in with my fi, it was awful, and nothing like i thought it would be. we were not happy at all, and came very close to breaking up. it took a lot of communication, and life’s a lot happier now.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

More details, maybe….?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh no, well we’re here to help think things through if you need us.  

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

((HUGS)) hopefully it gets better! We’re here to help!

Post # 9
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Honey bee

Sorry to hear…share more details if you can.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Yeah more details would help so we knew more about what you’re going through

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Because it isn’t the right thing to do just to get married because you are pregnant?  If that’s the case you shouldn’t have gotten married to him because it isn’t going to be a good life for any of you because you will be unhappy all the time.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It’s not the right thing to do if you are not in love. That doesn’t work out for anyone involved, particularly for the baby! Your baby won’t get the love he/she deserves if you are depressed and unhappy.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Although some people (parents/family/whoever) think it’s the “right thing” to get married when you get pregnant, it doesn’t mean it’s the right thing for you.  I would suggest counseling if you want to try and make this work, but if you really don’t think you will ever be happy with your husband then you might want to just move on…

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Well really two people shouldn’t get married because they have a child together. They get married because they love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together.

I don’t want to be a downer but if you are miserable you shouldn’t stay together for the child because they are going to grow up in that environment and they’ll be able to tell what’s going on sooner or later. You have a big decision to make, whether you want to try and make things work or if it’s best to move on.

Post # 16
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Honey bee

I agree that it’s not always the right thing to do just because you’re pregnant. I would also suggest counseling if you think that will help, but it sounds as if your mind is made up already. Perhaps just cut your losses and move on? There has to be love in order to make a marriage work, and you have to make sure you’re happy.

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