Post # 1
Hi Everyone! So I’m hoping maybe someone more experienced with weddings, planning etc can give me some advice. My husband and I recently went on vaction to the Sandal resort in St Lucia. While there, we decided to take advantage of the beautiful scenery and the fact that the simple wedding package was included with our stay. We had discussed having a destination wedding prior, so the location was ideal. The decision was also partially based on the fact that we knew having a big wedding was out of the question, as the funds to cover something so expensive simply are not there. That being said, I feel cheated out of the excitement of becoming engaged (obviously after discussing getting married there, asking me to marry him was no surprise) and the fact that I did not get the opportunity to wear a wedding dress (I wore a long white sundress).
Since we are now back home, we would like to have a small party to celebrate and of course to include all of the people who were not present at our ceremony. My question is, what is the appropriate kind of party? Should it be formal or informal? Is it appropriate for me to wear a wedding dress or would that seem silly? Any input would be appreciated, since I really have no idea the etiquette for this sort of thing!
Post # 3
I’m new to all this, but I think that it’s your wedding, and you should celebrate it any way you see fit! My plan is to have a small destination wedding that includes family and close friends and then come home and throw a big reception to include everyone we would have invited to a hometown wedding. I don’t think that there are any hard and fast rules anymore, and I don’t think you should cheat yourself out of a formal reception if that’s what you want! Just in researching whether or not my vision was possible (much less appropriate and/or within proper etiquette!), I’m finding that just about anything goes–from a formal reception in full bridal attire with a sit down dinner to a casual backyard barbeque in a sundress. You’ve gotten the stressful part over with; take the time to figure out what you and your husband really want and go for it!
Post # 4
Whatever kind of party you two want! When we return from our Destination Wedding we are having 2 informal receptions with friends and family. 🙂 Congrats btw! Any pictures to share?
Post # 5
Thank you both for your input! It does seem like anything goes at this point. So we’ve decided to go ahead and plan for a party at a local hall and will send out invitations announcing our marriage and include the details for our party. I think I’m fairly set on picking out a white cocktail dress in lieu of a wedding dress, simply b/c I think I’d feel a little weird about the whole thing. But who knows, my mind could change by then lol The only issue is that I’ve been receiving gifts from a few people already who don’t know that we’re having a party later on (I’m hoping to do it in August). I’m certainly grateful and of course happy to receive anything! I just don’t want anyone who already sent a gift to think that b/c they’ve receivied an invitation, they’re obligated to bring another gift. Guess you can’t control everthing!
Here’s just a few pics 5/18/13 Sandals La Toc, St Lucia
Top 2 are of course from the ceremony, and the bottom 2 are from the sunset photo shoot on our wedding day. One of the organizers there suggested it, and we’re very grateful she did!
Post # 6
Congratulations! We had our honeymoon there. We spent every day on the beach under that gazebo.
There is no etiquette for this–throw the kind of party you would like to have. I think you should wear what you want for your reception. Don’t settle on a cocktail dress because that’s what you think you “should” do.
Post # 7
@Georgia Bee: thank you! thats a very good point i really would like to wear a wedding dress once in my life, so i think I’ll keep my options open when making my final outfit decision. it would be pretty exciting to finally get that dress!