Post # 1
I was never OH MY GOSH I MUST CHANGE MY NAME IMMEDIATELY orrrr I MUST PROTECT MY NAME FOR MAH FEMINIST IDEOLOGY, so basically we got married almost a year ago
and I just haven’t changed my name. It seems like so not a big deal. I keep saying I will do it someday… but there’s a lot of stuff that had happened (travelling with passport in my old name, grad school apps made in my old name) that I just don’t see myself doing anything about it in the near future.
Anyone else? Am I missing something about the speshul importance of changing my last name?
Post # 2
it’s ok for it to not be important to you! just because some people have strong feelings either way doesn’t mean you have to! although if you DO care and just haven’t done it I would say get a move on – after a certain amount of time the government doesn’t see it as a name change due to marriage and then you have to do a regular legal name change through the courts which is more of a pain.
Post # 3
I haven’t changed mine yet, and we’ve been married two years in October. 🙂 I originally didn’t want to, but it is surprisingly important to my husband, so I agreed. I just haven’t gotten around to it… I’m socially known as his last name…but legally and professionally my maiden last name. It’s still on my agenda to do it, but it’s been so long, and is now a joke between my husband and myself. I’ll likely make a gift out of it..do it for an anniversary or Christmas or something. : )
Post # 4
I’m still carrying my father’s name and I have been married for four years exactly today!
I don’t think it matters if you keep your own name or take up your husband’s…it should not be an issue. What matters is how committed you are to make the relationship work…
Post # 5
Ahhh your point about the courts is well noted. I will do some investigating on my area’s rules and regulations! And also have a talk with DH… (he isn’t really concerned at all either).
Post # 6
I have a friend who has been married for 8 years and never officially changed her name. She somehow has a license with her married name, but her SSN is still in her maiden name. She’s not too bothered by it, but it does make some things weird (she’s known by her married name, but she has to be employed as her maiden; international and local travel requires different names, etc.).
I have another friend who will change her name when they have children, but hasn’t changed her name in their 4 years of marriage. She still goes by her maiden name.
If it doesn’t matter to you to change your name, there’s really not any reason to do it. I’d just recommend that if you decide to change it, you make sure to go through the whole process. It’s a pain, but living in limbo with 2 names can get really messy, really quickly.
Post # 7
If it is not important to you then it isn’t important.
It sounds like it just fell off the back of your to do list. If it is important to you put it back on. If not cross it off!
I just didn’t care enough to go through the hassle and I like the way my name is now. It wasn’t a political statement. Also my husband’s last name is long and hard to say/spell.
Post # 8
your friend that only half changed her name really needs to fix that and be careful with her taxes! my Mother-In-Law messed up when she got married and thought she had changed it everywhere and had a drivers license, credit cards, even a passport in her married name. But social security never got the memo so after 20+ years they were audited for filing false tax returns because the name and SSN she was using didn’t match up in their records! They were assessed MASSIVE penalties and had to get a lawyer to sort it all out.
Post # 9
I changed nothing and I’ve been married almost 40 years.
Post # 10
I changed mine legally probably like four months after the wedding, but I still haven’t changed everything else. I literally have a social security card in my new name and that’s IT.
IDs, bank card, accounts are all in my maiden name. I should probably get on that… Oops.
Post # 11
I work with a woman who has been married for 12 years, has a 3 year old daughter, and just got around to changing her name last year. I’m not sure if she was able to use her marriage certificate, or if she had to file for a legal name change though.
Post # 12
I changed mine, but I wasn’t really excited to, it’s just what ususally happens here I think. It was a faff sending out all the forms. I haven’t changed my passport yet becuse I’ll have to pay for a whole new one, (£72!) and I have several years left on it.
I only really changed it because it’s easier to have a single family name if we ever have children. I think he would probably have changed his instead if I really didn’t want to take his name, but my signature is a lot easier now, haha! That and in the UK at least, it’s still easiest for women to change their name as a wedding certificate is enough.
Post # 13
I only did it because it was important to my DH. I also took about a year LOL. I was in no rush Giant Pain in the ass and I have yet to change my passport
Post # 14
Legally & on Social Media, I’m my married name. Professionally, I’m my maiden name. Changing my name at work has been the BIGGEST hassle of my life and I just haven’t made the switch. It works for me 🙂
Post # 15
I didn’t and will not. DH and I talked about this and I don’t want to change my last name, as with most of women in my family. He understands, and thus my last name stays the same.