(Closed) Married Ladies… Did anyone just not bother changing their last name?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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anonybeez2011:  it’s ok for it to not be important to you! just because some people have strong feelings either way doesn’t mean you have to! although if you DO care and just haven’t done it I would say get a move on – after a certain amount of time the government doesn’t see it as a name change due to marriage and then you have to do a regular legal name change through the courts which is more of a pain. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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anonybeez2011:  I haven’t changed mine yet, and we’ve been married two years in October.  🙂  I originally didn’t want to, but it is surprisingly important to my husband, so I agreed.  I just haven’t gotten around to it…  I’m socially known as his last name…but legally and professionally my maiden last name.  It’s still on my agenda to do it, but it’s been so long, and is now a joke between my husband and myself.  I’ll likely make a gift out of it..do it for an anniversary or Christmas or something.  : )

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

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anonybeez2011:  I’m still carrying my father’s name and I have been married for four years exactly today!

I don’t think it matters if you keep your own name or take up your husband’s…it should not be an issue. What matters is how committed you are to make the relationship work…

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

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anonybeez2011:  I have a friend who has been married for 8 years and never officially changed her name. She somehow has a license with her married name, but her SSN is still in her maiden name. She’s not too bothered by it, but it does make some things weird (she’s known by her married name, but she has to be employed as her maiden; international and local travel requires different names, etc.).

I have another friend who will change her name when they have children, but hasn’t changed her name in their 4 years of marriage. She still goes by her maiden name.

If it doesn’t matter to you to change your name, there’s really not any reason to do it. I’d just recommend that if you decide to change it, you make sure to go through the whole process. It’s a pain, but living in limbo with 2 names can get really messy, really quickly.

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Wannabee

If it is not important to you then it isn’t important.

It sounds like it just fell off the back of your to do list. If it is important to you put it back on. If not cross it off! 

I just didn’t care enough to go through the hassle and I like the way my name is now. It wasn’t a political statement. Also my husband’s last name is long and hard to say/spell.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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larissakay:  your friend that only half changed her name really needs to fix that and be careful with her taxes! my Mother-In-Law messed up when she got married and thought she had changed it everywhere and had a drivers license, credit cards, even a passport in her married name. But social security never got the memo so after 20+ years they were audited for filing false tax returns because the name and SSN she was using didn’t match up in their records! They were assessed MASSIVE penalties and had to get a lawyer to sort it all out. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I changed nothing and I’ve been married almost 40 years.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I changed mine legally probably like four months after the wedding, but I still haven’t changed everything else. I literally have a social security card in my new name and that’s IT.

IDs, bank card, accounts are all in my maiden name. I should probably get on that… Oops. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I work with a woman who has been married for 12 years, has a 3 year old daughter, and just got around to changing her name last year. I’m not sure if she was able to use her marriage certificate, or if she had to file for a legal name change though.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I changed mine, but I wasn’t really excited to, it’s just what ususally happens here I think. It was a faff sending out all the forms. I haven’t changed my passport yet becuse I’ll have to pay for a whole new one, (£72!) and I have several years left on it.

I only really changed it because it’s easier to have a single family name if we ever have children. I think he would probably have changed his instead if I really didn’t want to take his name, but my signature is a lot easier now, haha! That and in the UK at least, it’s still easiest for women to change their name as a wedding certificate is enough.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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anonybeez2011:  I only did it because it was important to my DH. I also took about a year LOL. I was in no rush Giant Pain in the ass and I have yet to change my passport

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Legally & on Social Media, I’m my married name. Professionally, I’m my maiden name. Changing my name at work has been the BIGGEST hassle of my life and I just haven’t made the switch. It works for me 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I didn’t and will not. DH and I talked about this and I don’t want to change my last name, as with most of women in my family. He understands, and thus my last name stays the same.

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