Post # 16
I havent changed mine yet. My husband REALLY wants me to, but we are going on our honeymoon in March (we waited 6 months after wedding) and I really dont want any passport hassle going out of the country with my passport having a different name. Plus I’m just being lazy- the social security office and DMV is the last place I want to go on a Saturday! I changed it on FB just to appease him for the time being! =D
Post # 17
My sister has been married almost two years and still hasn’t got around to changing her name. I don’t see her doing it in the near future. I’ve been married a few months and still haven’t changed mine. I’ll probably change it soon. Like you, I’m fairly ambivalent about the whole thing, although I do like my husbands last name more than mine so that’s a big motivator!
Post # 18
I’ve been married for just under 6 months and I’ve only changed it at the bank. The only reason I did it there was because we got checks made out to us with only his last name. I was waiting to change it on everything else until we got back from our honeymoon but that was a few months ago now. I do want to change it before I have to pay extra but I’m still dragging my feet. I think I wish I had told DH I would change it socially but leave it legally. I guess I didn’t realize that was an option. Plus I wanted to be The HisName Family.
Post # 19
I was exactly the same as you. I figured I’d get around to it someday but wasn’t bothering to do anything for the time being. It just wasn’t a big deal to me one way or the other. It just didn’t matter.
But then one day a few years after we were married I lost my passport and I had to get it replaced using the super expensive same-day service because we were leaving the country the following week. I decided to change it then because passports last a long time & I didn’t want to pay $300 for the emergency replacement only to have to pay $150 (or whatever the standard cost is) again before it expired to change my name if/when I decided to proceed with my name change.
If it weren’t for that lost passport hiccup I probably would have waited it out until that original passport expired & then changed it when renewing.
Post # 20
I have been trying to decide if I would change my name this time or not. The only difference is I still carry my ex-husbands last name because of our children. The divorce was tough for them and although they LOVE my SO, I struggle with whether I want to do it or not. My SO fully supports me keeping my name the same because we know whether I am Jane Doe, Jane Johnson, or Jane Mrs. Poopy pants we are together. Lol. I am sure my ex will be pissed tho! But who cares…
Post # 21
I’m struggling with what to do abotu this too! I changed my name when I got married 15 years ago and have been known by that name ever since. My husband passed away 5 years ago and now I’m getting remarried this summer. My fiance feels strongly about me changing my name to his, but I’m less enthusiastic this time. Frankly, I don’t want to change it to again — I work in a profession where people know me in the community by my current name, it’s a hassle to switch everything, and admittedly, I don’t want to lose that part of my first husband. But it seems like it’s only approrpriate to keep a maiden name or take your husband’s name — not to keep your first husband’s name over your second’s! So I’m afraid I probably have to change it.
Post # 22
I was very excited to change my name.. But, just haven’t gotten around to it.
We’ve been travelling enough that I always have something booked in my maiden name, now we’re moving and everythings in my maiden name so.. Who knows when it will happen..
Post # 23
I really don’t care and probably won’t since changing requires a lot more work than keeping my last name lol. I come from a culture(I’m a dual citizen: US and Korea) where wives don’t change their last names so I don’t feel any sentimental value in doing so. If my partner really wants me to I’d consider putting in the effort but since he doesn’t…meh.
Post # 24
Married for a year and don’t bother changing my last name. People did comment or tease me at the beginning and.after awhile, people get used to it.
I did change my last name on facebook but that’s only because DH is not on fb.
It’s not a big deal to us
Post # 25
If I’d had a cool last name like Hershey or Pretzel or something I would have kept it or hyphenated.
I didn’t have a cool one, I hate my maiden name, and there’s no way I’d go thru life with my ex-husband’s last name.
So I changed it. Bonus – it starts with my favorite letter and I really moved up in the alphabet
Post # 26
I’ve been married a year a half and I haven’t changed my name. I don’t really have any strong feelings about it… I just don’t want to. If we were to have kids, I’d change it, but otherwise it seems like a hassle.
Post # 27
Initially I didn’t want to change my name, then got all conflicted about it, and now I’m leaning towards making the change…at some vague point in the future. Every time I go to the doctor’s, or pick up a prescription, or call any sort of customer service, I think about the hassle of changing my name and am thankful to have a shorter/easier last name than DH. But for now I’m happy to be known as MyFirst MyMaiden HisLast on Facebook and to make no change anywhere else. Also, I think my state is one of a few that won’t allow you to change your middle name to your maiden name when you get married, and I’m just not motivated to jump through hoops to do a legal (court) name change. So I may just unofficially be Ms. HisLast sometimes and legally stay Ms. MyLast.
Post # 28
I’ll be changing my last name just because my maiden name is weird af (I blame Ellis Island, stupid Americanization). If it wasn’t, I don’t know what I would do.
FEMMMMINNIIIISSSSSMMM, it gives me the right to choose to be lazy.
Post # 29
Not changing mine. I like my last name and hate doing any sort of official paperwork. I wanted Fiance to change his ( his stance was that shared last names are family units…. Lol okay so you change yours) but he’s attached to his last name as well.
Post # 30
I kept my last name. Not only did I not want to go through the hassle of changing it, but I like my last name and it goes well with my first name.