Post # 1
I’ve been noticing a trend the past few days on the board with some brides venting about how over budget they are, that they didn’t anticipate realistically how much a wedding was going to cost, the guest list got out of control, etc. I’m not judging anyone as I am definitely one of those brides…
My question is to those who have already gotten married and were over-budget by a decent amount do you regret spending all that money or do you feel like the quality was there and you wouldn’t change a thing?
If you’re commenting, please let us know your budget and appox how much you exceeded it.
Post # 2
We almost doubled the budget for our wedding when all was said and done. The original budget seemed crazy to me, for one day, let alone twice that.
However, the day-of was perfect! It was money well spent!
Post # 3
Budget : 5000k
Actual: 17,000-22,000 including vendors
Over all, I am not in debt for my wedding so I don’t regret it. My day was beautiful.
Post # 4
honeybee16 : We didn’t really go over budget, we were willing to spend 20-25K to have the wedding we wanted instead of compromising and saving 10k. Sometimes I think ‘what if’ because we could have gotten out of debt faster, we could have done a lot of things faster or differently if we didn’t spend that money on the wedding, but we also both agree that our wedding was perfect and, other than a few family members who had to miss it, we wouldn’t change a thing about the day
Post # 5
Our wedding is in June. We’re about $4K over. We have the cash to cover it, but we were hoping to put that on my FI’s student loan debt. But we decided that we’d rather have everyone there that we wanted and would make cuts to our budget after the wedding to make up for that difference.
Post # 6
There are plenty of times where I wish we’d scrimped more for a down payment instead of a wedding, but I also know that that wedding was my one shot to have it the way I wanted it. Even though I sometimes wish I had more money now, I don’t regret my decision at all. Totally worth it!
Post # 7
With my previous marriage, I wasn’t exactly over budget, but after a couple of years I regretted spending that much on one day–and this was while we were still happily married and the wedding was actually super fun and perfect. Maybe I could look back and regret spending the money (I think it ended up being about $25K) because I don’t have to regret missing out on having that “big” beautiful wedding–I really can’t say. But this time around I am doing a small intimate wedding (6 guests max) and spending the money on a bucket-list trip to Bora Bora for the honeymoon.
Post # 8
Our budget was 15k, we hit close to 20k.
At the end of the day, justifying a 20k price tag wasn’t worth it to me. I regret a lot of the expenses, and my wedding was not even that elaborate. I always think I would have been just as happy eloping with my nearest and dearest.,.. but then I think if I had, then I would have felt like I missed out on a ‘dream wedding.’
Post # 9
smoocheepoo : I’m thinking the same thing. Whatever you do, you just feel screwed either way!
Post # 10
During and immediately after the wedding I imagine I would be kinda shocked when I tally up the costs, but after some time you just find yourself going “meh, I’ve already spent it and got a pretty great wedding, why bother pulling out my hair over it?”
Post # 11
Our budget was 10k and we spent more like 13k. There are things that I look back at and think ‘did we really need that?’ but I dont really regret it. Maybe if I did it again I would have a smaller cake and less food but the day was still amazing. Id rather look back and say ‘oh we didnt need all that food’ than ‘oh we didnt have enough food’. Of course im only saying this because we arent in debt from it. If anyone is considering overspending and it would hurt them financially I would never advise it.
Post # 12
Our elopement was about 5 or 6 k total, but it was destination and includes everything from outfits, airfare, hotel, to cake and champagne. I thought it was going to be 4 k. Luckily we’re well off financially.
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2015 - Beautiful place.
My wedding was on July 4 2015, it costed us around 80k, about 120/130 guests, it was super over budget, and although I was married for exactly one year (I asked for the divorce on July 4 2016) I don’t regret it, it was beautiful I had my friends and family there, it was an amazing day, fun with lots of food, open bar and music.
I’m already married again, it was a court house wedding (but here where I’m living now, we just signed the papers there’s no ceremony), we going to Ireland this month to live so maybe in 2 years we will have a small (very small) wedding. 😃
Post # 14
Our budget was $20K, and we used just over $18k. Only thing I would change would be to get a better photographer even if that means spending more than I initially planned. Other than that, I wouldn’t change a thing 🙂
Post # 15
My wedding is 3.5k over our budget of 10k. My Mother-In-Law did help pay 6k, however, and covered most of the flower costs (I did DIY fake flowers), so that helped a lot. We didn’t spend very much on decor. Most of the costs are from catering and the venue ($8.5k ouch!).
I don’t think all the money spent on one day is justified, but it is a once in a lifetime event (hopefully), and I am excited for it anyway. 🙂