(Closed) Married Ladies: was a DOC really necessary

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Did you hire a day of coordinator for you wedding?

    Yes and we couldn't have pulled it off without her.

    Yes and it was sort of a waste of money

    No and I wish we had.

    No and I'm glad we didn't.


  • Post # 32
    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    If I had the cash at the time, it would have definitely been worth it! I absolutely HATED wedding planning!

    Post # 34
    197 posts
    Blushing bee

    Our coordinator made everything happen. I did not have a second to think about doing all the things she did! Her payment is probably the most useful money we spent.

    Post # 35
    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We had one and I’m so glad we did.  Now, I didn’t pay for a professional DOC, I just asked one of my bridesmaid’s sister.  I paid her $80 to do it. It was great.

    Post # 36
    5092 posts
    Bee Keeper


    I would highly recommend it-or at least have somebody or more than 1 person to help the day of.  Everything went pretty smoothly for my daughter’s small wedding-I knew that my aunts would probably “pitch in” and they did, which was lovely and very appreciated-but it took so many of us to “clean up” at the end of the night-I bought all the flatware, glassware, dishes -and I expected that we’d just rinse them off, and load them up.  A misunderstanding occurred-I knew the caterer was leaving after putting out the cake-but I had purchased plastic for that reason-but he used the glass plates I had purchased for salad plates. (While we were cleaning off tables outdoors-I found my 2 of my brothers washing cake plates in the kitchen!)  And the caterer served the top layer of the cake 🙁

    Post # 37
    2637 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It seems like this would be perfect to have a “type-A” friend do this, since she will enjoy it, and you can offer her the “job” by saying, “you are such a great friend, and  I really want you to be part of my wedding, so would you enjoy doing this?”

    Post # 38
    42 posts
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I was glad and happy to have gotten a DOC on my wedding day.  She and her assistant made everything run smoothly for us.  Even though I had offers from close friends and relatives to help on our wedding day, I wanted them to enjoy our wedding day and to celebrate with us.  I have been in many positions where I had thought helping would be nice but there were a lot of details that had to be dealt with which did not allow me to fully enjoy the weddings I have been to. I have also been in situations where I jumped into helping at a wedding because it was unorganized and they were short-handed for setting up things, serving food, etc… 

    Unless, someone specifically volunteer and understands what s/he is getting into on dealing with vendors and being the contact person on emergencies I would suggest getting a DOC.

    If you get a DOC, make sure your DOC and your vendors have each other’s contact information.  My DOC met my vendors on my wedding day for the first time; however, she made sure to contact them prior to our wedding day to discuss specific details.  I believe this really helped ensure that every person involved knew what s/he had to do to get the job done without seeking out the bride/groom. 

    Good luck!







    Post # 39
    1741 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011


    Mine was actually a total b**** and still she knew the place and she knew crowds and she dealt with the people very well. Everyone said it was the best wedding they’d been to.

    Still each time I saw her I got annoyed. Literally.


    And… I would do it again anyway.

    Post # 40
    1162 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Wedding planner was amazing.  On the day-of, I was thinking “well, she doesn’t really do much today…just pop in here and there’.  But then later people were telling me what a fabulous impression she had on them and what a great job she did of coordinating everyone.  But to me it all seemed effortless….so she did a great job!

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