(Closed) married life, do you and your spouse have more mutual friends or seperate friend

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would say its about the same

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

separate, definitely

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

A good mix I think.  We went to university together, and work together now, so we have a lot of overlap in acquaintances, and a few sets of couple friends, but each tend to have same gender close friends.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

He has more …he is pretty popular among his men…I on the other hand has one close friend

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We have our own friends from college and growing up, but when we hang out we generally all hang out together. But thats probably because they live across the country and its rare we see each other so its generally its as couples. If we lived near each other it would be a combination of together separately (he likes their husbands)

In our new location we have made couple friends together. I have made a couple of friends separately as well.

Over all I would say its a good mix.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Not married yet, but I’ve been with him for 8+ years and we’ve lived together for a good portion of it.  I’m answering, figuring that time is long enough to equate to “marriage” in the friend equation.

During that time, we’ve gotten to the point where we pretty much share all our friends.  Smile

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Most of our friends are mutual.  We all went to school together and have remained close friends since college.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Well we really don’t ‘hang out’ with our friends any way so it all depends. We have a lot of seperate friends because we have a big age difference but the people that we regularly spend time with are mutual friends from our church.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would call it the same. He has become friends with my friends and I have become friends with his friends. Will he ever be as close to my best friend from growing up as I am? No, but he would still call her a friend. Our lives have melded together quite nicely.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

We have a mix of common and seperate friends.  I think its important to have a mix of both.  My mom and dad only had couple friends and most of them started as my dad’s friends.  She didn’t maintain her own friendships from before they got together or make any new friends after.  When he died she had no friends as all their couple friends stopped calling when she was a single.  This was a common problem in the support group she joined.  She has lots of friends now though 🙂

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Definitely separate. Oh I am friendly towards his and vice versa, but we definitely have different friends.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Separate for sure

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We have local mutual friends, since we moved here together, but most of our friends from college and such are separate (we went to different universities) – though the other person has at least met most of them.

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