Post # 1
I am not so naive to think that married/taken men do not check out other women. That being said in the nearly seven years I have been with my DH I never saw him check out or ogle another women before or after we were married. He simply does not do it in front of me and if he does he is by far one of the most discreet and sneaky men I have ever met.
That being said I had the incredible pleasure of eating my lunch with my DH today while have a married man stare at my boobs the entire time. He wasn’t even tricky/sneaky or coy he just stared. To top it off he was having lunch with his wife and young son.
He was supposed to be sitting with his back to me and possibly look into the eyes of his wife. Instead after I walked in and sat down he used a variety of maneuvers to turn and twist in my direction and there he remained pretending to pay attention to his son when in reality he was enjoying his sandwich with a side of my breasts.
I just don’t get it. I wanted to say “take a picture” but feared he just might. Then I thought your wife is RIGHT there…right there! The wife didn’t seem to do much of anything but eat so perhaps she deals with this type of behavior on a regular basis. Who knows? My DH had his back to the guy and didn’t see anything but I did mention it to him after we left, he was flattered of course. What a brat! Looking is one thing but this dude was literally undressing my chest for nearly 30 minutes.
What the hell is wrong with some men? If you saw your DH/SO/FI staring at another woman what would you do? What would you say? If you noticed someone rudely staring would you say something to them?
Post # 3
Yikes. That would creep me out. My SO sounds like yours – I’ve never noticed him check out another chick. Obviously I know he probably does sometimes, but he’s respectful about it and I am glad!!
Post # 4
I find that type of behavior extremely disrespectful to his wife. If I had a husband who was that disrespectful of our relationship and my feelings – I would have given him a sharp wake-up call with the pointed end of a fork to his crotch right then and there at the table.
That being said – do you think that perhaps it really was HIS wife and kid? Maybe he went to lunch with his sister and nephew? Just throwing out ideas….
Post # 5
Looking is one thing, but going out of your way to stare at someone’s physical assets is rude even if you’re single! It’s just not polite to stare! That being said, were you wearing something low-cut? I have to admit, even though I am not a lesbian or even bi-curious, if a woman has ample cleavage showing, I sometimes find my eyes drawn in, hahaha. And I wore a low-cut top once, and my two female friends (while out at dinner on a triple date) mentioned to my SO and I that they couldn’t stop staring at my cleavage, haha… whoops. Haven’t worn that top again.
Post # 6
Ugh, to me this is so disrespectful and makes me angry. I have never seen FI check out another woman while we’ve been together. That said, we do acknowledge we’ll notice attractive people but just in passing. Unless Robert Downey Jr is working out next to me on the treadmill, it’s a quick thought of “oh he’s cute” then done.
We have been out when FI has noticed guys looking at me, and he takes it as a compliment. Boys are so weird… I think I’ve seen women checking FI out, and I get mostly possessive 😛 but then joke with him “did you see that girl checking you out?”
Post # 7
That is so disgusting and creepy. I would have smacked my husband (on the arm etc) if I caught him doing that, and I probably would have been a bit offended. I would say something under the right circumstances, otherwise I’d probalby make it quite obvious that I knew what he was doing, without openly saying HEY KNOCK IT OFF in front of his wife and child.
Post # 8
@katie8759: The little boy called him daddy a couple of times so yeah it is safe to assume that they were his wife and kids. He was wearing a wedding ring so another clue that even if that wasn’t his wife he does have a wife, so eww just the same.
Post # 9
@Treejewel19: Wrong on too many levels then….. Poor woman must have some low self-esteem.
Post # 10
I’d ask him who or what he was looking at so I could oggle, too.
Post # 11
@Treejewel19: I’ve been in a similar situation before and it bothered me too. I just try to ignore it. Some people have a hard time controlling themselves when they get out in public.
Post # 12
@KhaleesiStormborn: I am wearing the red/white/blue version of this dress:
I have size D breasts so yeah I have some minor cleavage but I am also working so no I don’t have serious, falling out, jaw to the floor obvious cleavage. Again, it is minimal at best.
Post # 13
@Treejewel19: Do you have a nice set of hooters? If so, guys are gonna stare whether they’re married or single. Take it as a compliment.
Post # 14
Although it is true that guys will notice, they should be gentlemanly enough not to disrespect their wives and girlfriends by doing it right in FRONT of them….
Post # 15
@Aquaria: I agree. I think anyone would stare … I might even! I don’t it makes them a horrible person but yeah I would be uncomfortable if my DH did. He has never checked out a girl in front of me for the 4 years we have been together. He always looks directly at me and seems to not even pay attention to other women.
Post # 16
Married or single, male or female it is NEVER ok to ogle someone else. Yes, sometimes you can’t help but take a quick look, but after that you need to be able to control yourself. We are humans, we can control how we behave. To treat anyone as if they are an object for you to enjoy is just wrong, and it’s even worse that he was disrespecting his wive and setting a terrible example for his son at the same time.
My FI never blatantly checks out other women because he respects them as people. The only time I’ve ever known him to stare at someone or comment on it was when a girl was wearing flesh-toned leggings, and he had to do a double-take because he literally thought someone was walking around with no pants on.