(Closed) Married more than 5 years? Share your wisdom!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

obviously this doesn’t necessarily work for everybody, but I found this article a while ago:

Here

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

This post is brilliant.  I have been with my guy for over a decade and these are all things that we do a pretty good or really good job of NOT doing!  12 years and going strong ๐Ÿ™‚

16 Ways I Blew My Marriage

Post # 6
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Worker bee

@strawbs:  That article was so great. I’m not even in a relationship currently, but these are all things I am going to strive for in my next one. Thanks for sharing!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@FearLess:  you’re welcome ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m bumping this because there are very few bees who responded for themselves.  I really would love to hear personal advice!! (I have seen that article before and love it though ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@strawbs:  I love this.  So.  Much.  

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

We have been married for eight years and together for 11.5.  We are still the most in love couple I know.  One of our secrets is to consciencely choose to have grace and kindness for each other when the other one screws up.  My husband knows that when he does something boneheaded like wreck my car or put red in with the whites, I will still treat him gently and with dignity, not scream and berate him.  He does the same for me.  We feel like we are each others safe place.  Life is tough enough without the person you love making you feel stupid when you make mistakes.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Bumping cause I love it. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MrsFuzzyFace:  LOVE what you said! This is what we are working on. Unfortuately it is easier said than done. Not that we are constantly insulting eachother over dumb/stupid things. But sometimes things do tend to get out of hand. Sometimes we lose sight of the bigger picture. Embarassed

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@Sasha2011:  I figured this out our first year of marriage.  My husband was installing a ceiling fan while I watched.  He was getting frustrated with some part that wouldnt go on, so he threw the wrench into the box.  In his frustration he completely forgot that the light globe thing for the fan was still in the box.  When we heard the glass shatter, he looked at me, fully expecting to have his tail chewed out.  Instead, I said “well, it looks like we are going to need to order a replacement part.  The look of relief of his face when I showed him grace taught me that I would rather be calm than have him feel horrible. 

 

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@strawbs:  Love this article! Fiance and I just read it together and discussed the points raised. We found that the discussion may have been as helpful as the list itself.

@MrsFuzzyFace:  This is a great story. I’ll have to try and remember it myself as a lesson in life.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

I’ve been married for 27 years (mother-of-the-bride). The number one things is always treat each each other with respect and kindness – never take each other for granted. The second thing I would say is never give up – life and love come in waves, at times, it will be smoother sailing than other times, As well, love will wax and wane- hold on through these times and try to remember how you felt when you first loved each other and over the years your love will grow and deepen.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2006

@MrsFuzzyFace:  I love what you said..True..we are trying to get there but its hard..We both run out of patience..

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