Post # 1
When I was very little, I asked my grandmother who she loved the most, thinking that the answer would be me. Without hesitating, she told me that sheloved grandpa the most. I was surprisedand kept asking her if she loved him more than my mother, more than my aunt, more than me. Always the answer was yes. She was incredibly gentle throughout my line of questioning and explained to me that he was the love of her life. I was too young then to understand the difference between romantic love and familial love, but I always remembered this. I also remember my grandparents sitting nextto each other on the couch, holding hands and singing tunes together absentmindedly well into their 80s.
I don’t have kids yet ,so i was just curious to know what other mothers think about this topic.
Post # 3
I don’t love either “more”.. but my husband most definitely comes first (aside from immediate need to survive… like our kids would eat before we would, etc). Keeping my marriage strong & showing my children what it means to be a good husband & wife is the most important things I can give them for their character & future lives. It’s the best example of how to love that any of us will ever see.
Post # 5
boy, this might get some flames thrown in it. I’ve always felt the love for kids and the love for a husband are equal, but they are different. and that’s how it was always explained to me. I can’t imagine someone saying “well i love my husband more then my kids” sorry. however, should the husband become unhealthy for the kids, as a mother you may make the decision to do what is best for your kids making it seem as though you love them more. but in actualality… wow thats quite the questions.
Post # 6
That is so hard…
You are right you do become one.. and honestly, I feel horrible admitting this, but if we were in a car accident and I lost my husband I would feel worse than if I lost my child..
Not because I don’t love my children, I do, more than anything in the world lol, but because If I loose my husband, my children don’t have their father we don’t have our family.. if my husband we lived we could always have more children if we wanted..
not that I would replace my babies or anything, but just being able to reproduce with that same man would mean a lot..
I can’t even explain it.. I know it sounds horrible though..
Post # 7
I love them both equally, but differently. There is no way I could choose one over the other.
Post # 8
Well in all honesty I love my husband more. He is the one I’m going to grow old with.
Oh course I love my children but its definetly a different kind of love:)
Post # 9
100% my daughter. I love her unconditionally in every way and while I love my husband I do have to say my love for him is conditional (ie if he became abusive, had an affair, etc.)
Post # 10
My daughter. Never thought I’d see a day when I’d say that I loved somone more than him, but that little girl brings out an undescribable love and happiness inside of me.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband more than anything as well..but the love I have for my child is like nothing I can describe.
Post # 11
My husband and I were talking last night about what would happen if we lost a child. For the record, we were discussing this because our son had gotten out of his carseat and into the front seat with me holding him when we made it to our street driving home (we live in the country and hardly any neighbors and it was VERY late). He said if we got into an accident and I let our child die he would leave me. I said I wouldn’t even be able to live with myself if anything happened to any of my kids. So I guess the kids vote wins for me. While I love them both equally but differently if I had to choose only one, I would choose my kids. I have been divorced before and I had a daughter before I even met him just to give you a little background. If I would have married him first then had kids, my decision may be different.
Post # 12
I voted equally but different. I’m not married but I have a child and a commited relationship.
Post # 15
My son. Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband, he is my best friend friend and my rock. But I would die for my son in a heart beat without even blinking. For me, it’s no contest.
Post # 16
Because it was brought up I thought I should add….
In a life or death situation our kids trump the other spouse hands down! DH would save the kids over me & I would save the kids over him (minus soemthing happening in labor).
On the regular day to day though, it’s like I said…. the health of our marriage comes before my other relationships… It goes DH, kids, myself, ministy, work.
Post # 17
my daughter, no contest. I love her more than I could ever imagine loving anyone.