Post # 1
Hiya so I was wondering weather I should change my name after I get married, my name isn’t very exiting and my married name would be quite nice but it’s just not my name, did anyone else have doubts about changing their name after the wedding??
Post # 3
lots of girls now days keep their maiden, it’s actually quite the norm as far as i’m concerned, but i am going to take his name after the wedding
Post # 4
I am taking FI’s name. He is very excited about that, oddly enough.
Post # 5
I had lots of doubts but in the end I changed it. I still haven’t changed everything but it’s a work in progress.
Changing your last name is about you and your SO. No one else. If you don’t want to change it and your SO is okay with it but your families gawk at it, make the decision that works for you two.
Post # 6
I did think about it, but I’m definitely changing my name. For me, having the same names shows that we’re united and a family (our family). I want our children to have the same name as both of us as well!
Post # 7
My doubts are more when it comes to the actual daunting process of changing a name lol. I know it will be worth it but still ha ha
Post # 8
Yup.. I’ve heard its a pain. I’m doing it, just not right now. Maybe after the big wedding on October =)
Post # 9
I debated about this A LOT. as a kid I always couldnt wait to get married and no longer be last for everything my last name starts with a Z.
But now its like thats my name and how people know me and that im greek right off the bat. I like some of the bee’s idea (on other threads) of adding you maiden name to your middle name and takin FI’s last name. I had never heard of it before and IMO its a good compromise!
Post # 10
Its a little strange and takes some time to get used to, but we made the decision that I would change my name. I think going either way is fine as long as its a decision you both feel good about!
Post # 11
I am totally SIKED to take my man’s name (which happens to mean “the beautiful one”, lol).
I feel exactly the same way as EvaBostonTerrior.
We’re also both pretty old fashioned about these things, but I also totally respect and support anyone who chooses to keep their maiden name.
Post # 12
It’s between you and your fiance, but it’s ultimately your decision and no one else’s. You say that it’s just not your name and that makes you uncomfortable, but that could mean a couple of things… that you do want to change it but it will take some getting used to, or that your name is really something that you feel is a part of your idenity and don’t want to change.
I think there’s a lot of people who change their names who fall into the former category. I’m definitely in the latter, though – his last name is perfectly nice, but it’s not mine and I see no reason why I should give mine up if he doesn’t change anything about his. It’s really up to you to decide what matters to you – his opinion can obviously, but make sure that whatever you do, you’re satisfied with it. Maybe not 100% adjusted to a new name, but certainly not resentful of whatever decision you make.
Post # 13
I have no particular attachment to my surname – it’s Jones, it’s my dads name I’m not close to him in any way so it’s not emotional, it’s just … it’s my name, it’s common and unexciting, but I have had it for 25 years – It’s mine!!! is that silly!
Post # 14
My last name is awesome! It’s very ethnic and I still have a good number of uncles and cousins in Serbia with the same name. Future hubby has talked about taking mine, but I’m not too keen on that idea. In the end, you need to do what you are comfortable with. And remember: you don’t have to do it right away! Lots of people change their names months, even years later
Post # 15
We decided to take each other’s names. Originally, I wanted to just keep mine, but he wanted me to take his. 1) I’m a feminist. 2) It’s part of who I am. 3) The name-changing process is a pain. By our second argument about it, I was willing to take his name because I love him, and I knew it meant so much to him. Luckily, by then he had budged too, and we agreed to take each other’s names to symbolize our new family. We’re Mexican so our names will be long, and our kids will have really long names, lol! but i love that we’ll have each other’s names, no hyphen though. At least we’ll go through the name-changing process together.