(Closed) Married now – Should I throw out stuff from old boyfriend(s)?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 77
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Helper bee

I have always thought it’s EXTREMELY inappropriate to keep things from exes when you have a new SO. So yes, throw it all out!! I believe it is disrespectful to current DH.

Post # 78
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

BURN THEM.

Post # 79
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@Sunshine09:  I would say yes.  I don’t have anything from old boyfriends anymore.  And if I found out my husband had been holding onto stuff from his old girlfriends, I’d definitely be hurt.  I think it’s because the whole point is it’s “sentimental” stuff.  Why are you feeling sentimental about an old boyfriend now that you’re married?  That’s the part that would bother me.

Post # 80
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Uhhh…yes, definitely get rid of it!

Post # 81
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If a man wanted to keep these things, you’d all be calling it “emotional cheating” or something.

Post # 82
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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@MariContrary:  x 100! I agree completely!

Post # 83
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Newbee

Get rid of it ALL.  Respect your husband

Post # 84
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Sunshine09:  I think you absolutely should get rid of that sort of stuff now that you’re married. Imagine if you found a picture of your husband kissing HIS most recent ex and he refused to get rid of it…how would that really make you feel???? Dump all that crap and move forward with your married life. He is your ex for a reason. Time to move on.

Post # 86
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Think sbout it from his perspective… Would you want him to keep a pic of him and another woman kissing? Even if it is for sentimental reasons? And going by that logic also how strong are your sentiments towards your DH and marriage? Is there any purpose to be gained by keeping those items? And similarly is there a value to be gained by throwing them out? Looks like in your casevthe latter is true because your DH didnt like chancing upon it.

Post # 87
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Sugar bee

@Sunshine09:  I would definitely toss all that stuff!

 

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@HappilyEverAfter54:  still have … my previous engagement ring from ex Fiance

Isn’t it traditional to return the e-ring to an ex FI?

Post # 88
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

the only thing i have kept from ex’s are nice gifts that i still wear or use. what good is the other stuff? is it worth upsetting your husband?

Post # 89
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@ceebree:  well I didn’t so I guess it’s not a “tradition” for everyone. 

Post # 90
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it’s fine and dandy to keep that stuff, but only if it’s in a box put away somewhere and you’re not looking at it all the time. For me it’s moreso if I want to look at that stuff when I’m old and much more grey than I am, I’d rather have it. You can’t get it back once you throw it away. And your memory may not always be sufficient.

Post # 91
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

YES! 

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