Post # 47
@NJmeetsBX: Not true. Studies actually show that married people have better sex and are more sexually satisfied. (I read a published book on the studies for a class.)
Your friend is translating a stereotype produced by the media. Married sex – there is nothing like it, in my experience.
Post # 48
I don’t know, but it makes me SO happy to see some people saying that they have the same amount or more sex while married than before. And I second everyone who said that grad school is hell on your sex life. Between adjusting to living together and me being crazy with grad school, we have just not been getting it done as much lately. Totally lame.
Post # 49
I have to disagree with the age thing. I am 54 and would gladly have sex each and every day if I could.
Post # 50
People are assholes. The end.
Post # 52
Well I’m glad your hormones are still making you hot for your honey, but I know mine have dropped. Even my level of desire to…ahem…take care of my self has dropped.
Post # 53
NOT true. BUT pregnancy killed my sex drive and therefore our sex life. 🙁
Post # 55
LOL. If you commit to it, it won’t! 😛
Post # 56
I have heard this aswell, from friends that have been married. I read in a study a few months back, that in some points sex should be scheduled to make sure that bond still persists in times of stress/lack of motivation. For me it wouldn’t work though. When stressed, we find things to do for eachother, all the small little things that do count. A nice warm hug, backrub, just all the small things. It goes a long way.
I can’t imagine being without that kind of intimacy with my Fiance though. :/
Post # 57
pssssssssssssssssst! We married people just keep that a secret 😛
Lol, in favor of full disclosure, DH and I waited until marriage so for us……marriage meant getting to do it! But I definitely agree with PP’s – tired people often pass on the sex. I think your friend is just misinformed or hanging with the wrong married people!
Post # 58
For us it is true but only because we are always so busy, tired or don’t see eachother. There has been times when our schedule overlapped so much that we realized we had’t seen eachother in a week… at all… so yes, for us sex has diminished. But, lets face it, it is bound to happen! Nobody has the same sex drive in their 50’s as they did in their 20’s… just sayin.
Post # 59
My input probably won’t be that great, but I’ll answer anyway 😀 I didn’t have sex before marriage so I can’t compare. But we’ve been married for about a year and we usually have sex about 3 times a week. It depends on how tired/stressed my husband is though. (I’m unemployed so I have a lot of free time and not tired much so I’m always ready for sex!) He really doesn’t like to have sex when he’s like that. I guess it just all depends on lifestyle. I’m sure if we had kids we’d have sex way less.
Post # 60
I don’t know about marriage, as I am not yet there, but I will atest to kids and fatigue killing sex drive.
My Fiance and I used to have sex all the time, morning noon and night, anywhere anytime (within decency boudaries).
FI’s son moved in and I hit the wall. I work full time, and raising a child, holy crap it whips your butt. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, school, sleepless nights, and the fact his room is literally feet from ours totally flattens my sex drive out. Add to the fact I quit drinking, that always got me revved, and gained 20 lbs. Fiance plays ina hockey league that plays late at night, and is oftenup early, so rarely do I get enough sleep to function normally, and I am a SUPER light sleeper now that little boy lives with us cause I”m always listening for him to need us (he used to have night terrors all the time, and had allergic asthma and would have attacks in the night, it was awful)
I used to LOVE morning sex, but now little boy is awake before us, I just can’t bring myself to do it. Nothing kills the drive like a little knock on the door and chattering away on the other side. Seems wrong to me to partake with the little body right there.
Sex anywhere but our room, no way. Scares me senseless. My stepson has only rarely gotten up in the night, but I just can’t relax thinking he could walk downstairs at any given moment and see us.
I really hope, eventually if we have our own child together, I might relax a bit, but as of right now, we are lucky if we have sex twice a month.
Post # 61
not true foe us. our sex life seems to get better over time and even more so since we got married. its like we are even closer than we were better and that just makes everything better 🙂 I am talking about quality, not quantity. our quantity is about the same as before – we go through phases where we do it a few times a week to nothing for several weeks. that is dependent on what else is going on in our lives that makes us too stressed/tired etc.