(Closed) Married people: how many people did you invite vs. how many actually came?

posted 4 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

JUst make an a list and b list. A list for 250, as those rsvps start coming back then mail out invitations for the b list. That way you don’t end up getting more than 250.

Post # 4
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not married yet, but we invited 160 and we have 137 coming.

Post # 5
7 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

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Post # 6
5014 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ugh I’m dealing with this too! Our venue holds 122 unless we pull charger plates and squeeze in too many people at a table, which I don’t want to do!! We are inviting 160, which seems like WAY too many but a lot of them are out-of-state. I would say you should invite around 300 to get 250 unless everyone is local and never goes on vacation. If your wedding date is really December 28th, I would invite more because everyone will be traveling for the holidays.

Post # 8
23809 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

We invited about 200 and had about 160 there in the end.

Post # 9
1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We invited 350 and had 287 show up for dinner and about 20 more after. There was a death in particular family so no one from that family camd because they were in mourning. 

Post # 10
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We invited around 250 and 200 came.  The wedding was 8 hours from all of DH’s family and most of our friends, so many of them did not attend.

B lists can work if you do it properly and with enough notice.  I was seriously D listed for a wedding once and it was obvious, but I didn’t really care and still attended the wedding and had a great time.  It really depends on the person if they’re going to be offended about being a B lister or not.  But, like I said, if you do it right there’s no way of knowing (this entails sending out A list earlier, and sending out B list early on with an updated RSVP date on the response card).

Post # 11
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I invited 125 and only 60 showed. Some guests that DID RSVP didn’t show (no call no show and I STILL haven’t heard the reason why) and some guests that didn’t RSVP DID show. My circle, though, DO NOT RSVP. I wanted so bad to do the cute little escort cards I had an idea for and seating arrangements but it’s just NOT done here. Honestly I only got 3 reply cards then I had to make a RSVP page for FB which only 9 RSVPed from there.

Post # 12
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We invited 325 and had 230 attend.  Most of the declines were for +1s (many people chose to come by themselves) and for children (we had a lot of paretns leave their kids at home).  We also had a lot a ton of out of town guests so we knew we’d have more declines. 

You should always plan for 100% attendence (ie don’t invite more than you can afford or your venue can hold), but realistically you can expect 15-20% of guests to decline.  I would advise against an A and B list unless you can get the B list invites out within 1-2 weeks of sending your A list invites out.  You don’t want your guests to fill like second choices or seat fillers.

Post # 13
341 posts
Helper bee

In our case, I’m glad we invitied way more people than were coming. We had a maximum of 200 and a minimum of 150. We invited 228, 158 RSVP’d yes. However, I would say that probably only about 135-140 came. There was a big snow storm the next day, and the folks coming in from out of town didn’t make it for the most part. I was fine with that, though, it was less crowded which I didn’t mind. 

Post # 14
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

B Lists are tough because most of the No’s dont come until the week the RSVPs are due. We had 75% say yes, but we’re having a semi-destination wedding. If you’re having a close-to-home wedding plan on 85-90% and work from there.

I agree with other Bees, if more say No, then just upgrade other things!


Good luck, RSVPs are tricky!

Post # 15
32 posts

We invited 170 and 155 are coming!

Post # 16
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We assumed all people will come with at least one guest (for families we assumed all adults and children would attend).  Total invited count was 520.  We had 360 people attend the wedding (many adults didnt bring a +1 and most people left their kids at home). 


So – from 520 30% would mean 156 dont show for a final count of 364 – we ended up with 360.. so I would say the 30% rule is a good rule of thumb. 


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