(Closed) Married ten years; time to start a family

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@oldmatron:  I plan to be about the same.  I married at 21.  Not planning on children until I am 29-30.  I have been married 4.5 years.  Will wait another 3-4 years before we have children.  

Post # 4
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We will be if we decide to have children.  Got married at 21/22.  Now we’re 24/25.  If we have kids it won’t be for at least another 5-6 years.  I think we are a rare group though.  Most people that get married young seem to start a family fairly quickly.  

Post # 5
643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 1988

We had been married 7½ years (together for 11½) when our first child was born.

For us, it was perfect timing. We were married at 23 so, we spent our twenties as DINKs. We partied, played, traveled and worked really hard during that time. 

I would not change a thing.

Best of luck!

Post # 6
1374 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We can’t wait that long but we are hoping we can wait 2-3 years, which is practically unheard of for our age group (late 20s-early 30s). I’m always surprised how many people want to get to babymaking on the honeymoon. I want my “just us time”!

Post # 7
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

One of my friends has parents that were married about 9 years before they had her!

Post # 8
1130 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@oldmatron:  I think that’s more popular now than it was back in like 1981, when my parents got married. But they didn’t wait to try, of course back then you were still expected to start popping out the babies right away. Took them like 9 years and my mom was 29 and dad was 36 and they said everyone told them that was too old to have a first baby. Another 8 for my brother, and so now they are trying to get ready for retirement and my brother is not even out of high school yet. I guess they just had a lot of fertility problems or something.

I won’t be waiting for that long though, for a few reasons. Mainly because what if I have the same problems my mom had? I’ll be almost 25 when I get married, so having a baby at 35 or older is not ideal for me. The risk of genetic disorders goes up beyond that age too, like Down Syndrome and autism disorders.

We’re going to wait a couple of years at the most so we can get settled in our careers (we will be done grad school by then) and just enjoy being married for awhile.

Edit: Just remembered it’s my parents’ 32nd anniversary today. Can’t believe it didn’t cross my mind until now. Oops, lol.

Post # 9
4035 posts
Honey bee

@oldmatron:  Not the exact situation, but will be similar. We plan to TTC in about 6 years. We recently got married, but we dated for 10 years before getting married. So we will have been together as a couple for about 16 years by the time we TTC.


Post # 10
7719 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@oldmatron:  No. Not counting couples with fertility issues, offhand I can think of three couples who married young (about 22 and 20) and had their first child about 10 years later.

Post # 11
1130 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@BrandNewBride:  So were mine like I mentioned in my other post, but they didn’t choose that.

Post # 12
2339 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

While it’s unlikely that we will have been married for 10 years, it’s highly likely that we will have been together over 10 years before a kid. We just celebrated our 8 year dating anniversary and I don’t want any anytime too soon, if ever.

Post # 13
7232 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We plan to do this (or pretty close). We married at 23 (and are now 24) and don’t plan on having kids until 30 (if we have kids).

Post # 14
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

I’m recently married and hope to be just us for ten years give or take 🙂

Post # 15
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My sister was married for 10 years before having children.  But that wasn’t really by choice ( they had reproductive issues).  

Post # 16
294 posts
Helper bee

I don’t know anyone waited so long. The most I seen been 2 tops so far but right now our plan is to wait 3 yrs before trying for the firstwhich would put use between 26 and 27 mainly cause of the birth control I choose to use has a three years time table. I imagine by then we’ll be ready and would have beetooth ether for 6 years and married for 3.

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