- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
So I’m a married women now! And 20 days later I would like to share the good and the bad; and hopefully you can gleam something helpful out of this.
I had a year to plan this wedding. Unfortunately, I changed my mind and most things I did or planned early on were tossed out. (like the 50 rsvp cards I made then changed my mind on, or the 100 clothespins I stamped and never used)
One of the things I did that I shouldn’t of was plan too big. I got caught up in all the weddings I’ve seen or been too. My family and the hubby’s family are very small and scattered. We both have only a couple friends. I should of paid attention to this and planned on a much smaller wedding. I invited around 80 people. Only 25 came. A quarter of them never responded. I planned on having 40 people and since I never see any of them I thought how nice it would be to have a casual after-party that night at my father-in-law’s house to spend time with them. He bought a tent and a lot of food and tiki torches – the whole works. Only 15 people came to that. What a waste. (We’re still eating the left-over chili!)
I spent a lot of time on the music which no one danced to. The only people under 40 that attended were my 3 brothers and the wedding party of 2 people. So while I wanted and planned on having people dance, I should of looked at who was coming and realized these great aunts and grandparents are not going to dance. And unfortunately, as soon as I switched back to the mellow eating music, they all left. Seriously. We didn’t get to do a send-off and we had to end the wedding 2 hours early because all our guests left.
Another thing is we didn’t have enough money budgeted for a wedding day coordinator. That would of been so nice with the amount of things we did ourselves. The wedding was at 11am. The venue was booked the night before so we had no rehearsal, and no time to set-up until the morning of. God that was crazy! I woke up at 6am that morning and did my makeup all alone in my hotel bathroom. At 8am we started setting up the chairs, the arbor, the tables, music – everything. I wish I would of had someone helpful that knew what was going on to help me. Everyone kept asking me what to do. I wrote lists and explained it, but still somehow they didn’t get it (I mean, what don’t you get about putting the tableclothes on the table and filling the vases with water? geesh). At 20mins to go I was just starting to change into my dress. It would of been nice to have some time beforehand to slow down and relax.
Also, choose your wedding party wisely. I don’t have any close friends or sisters so I went with a girl I knew from work that I hung out with. Well, she was no help at all and I regret choosing her. She was spaced out and nervous – I had to calm her down. I had asked her to remind me about my veil and garter but we forgot to put on both ($100 wasted). Also, she left her bouquet in the fridge. She brought her new boyfriend and sat in a corner with him the whole time, then left an hour into the reception without telling me. Sent me a text saying she couldn’t find me. I was there the whole time. Ugh. I wish I would of gone with my gut and just had my brother be my “Man of Honor”.
The ceremony was beautiful. We rented a new Dodge Challenger to drive up in. The ceremony location was outside on a hill far away from any buildings to hide in so my daddy drove me up to the “aisle” in the car. My grandpa was in charge of the music. He stopped my song just as we were walking, but he fixed it and it turned out kinna cute. The minister did such a nice job! I’m so glad he let me write a lot of it. It was perfect for us. And I didn’t cry! I thought for sure I would, but I was so happy that no tears came.
And I was so happy with our photographer. I changed my photographer 4 months beforehand and I’m so glad I did. At first I was going to use a friend’s friend who was an amateur charging $75/hr. But after looking hard at his portfolio and after he snuck up all these extra charges, I decided upon Elisa Bricker of Charlottesville VA. She was $1500 but worth every penny. She knew exactly what to do, where we should pose, and I didn’t have to worry at all. And the pictures turned out amazing. The only regret is I wish I would of thought about certain poses and locations I wanted. Only after the fact I realized it would of been nice to have some shots in the woods, etc.
But you know what? Even with all the mishaps and mistakes, I still had an amazing day. When I walked down that aisle all my worries vanished. I could only think about the wonderful man I was going to marry. I didn’t notice anyone but him. I couldn’t tell you who sat where, if they all got their programs, nothing. And afterward, even after the no-one-dancing thing and everyone leaving I was still happy. I let it roll off my back and kept going. Because regardless of what happened I was married. The day was successful and I got what I wanted. My best friend, my love, and now my husband…forever.
I wish you all best wishes on your marriages and your wedding celebration!