Post # 1
Have any married or engaged bees felt like they waited a really long time from the point a guy said he was going to ask, to when he did ask?
Are there any bees whose past boyfriends said they were going to ask “soon” and never did?
Post # 3
@Elleymae: It was 1 1/2 years between when Fiance and I first talked about rings, getting married, etc and the actual proposal.
We had been together 6 1/2 years when he proposed.
Post # 4
Well I dated my ex for 7 1/2 years, and while he asked me multiple times it was never official, there was never a ring, and I didn’t really count those.
My husband asked me after we dated for 11 months. I was expecting him to wait until at least our first anniversary, so I was very surprised.
Post # 5
We started talking about getting married when we bought our house in August 2008. It was almost two years later when he asked. However… we did have conversations about when we were going to get married prior to the engagement. We originally wanted to do it in the summer/fall of 2010. Due to money and work issues – we decided to push it back by a year. I was surprised when he proposed last May, but we had been talking and planning before the official engagement.
Post # 6
My husband started talking about it about six months before he actually proposed. At first he was always saying “When the time is right.”
Finally, I told him I wasn’t comfortable with our living situation (he’d pretty much moved in with me a little at a time) without being engaged. He then told me he’d propose “Soon.” “Soon” turned out to be about a month, maybe six weeks. But at the time the uncertainty and vagueness of his answer and the fact that he had all the control over the situation made it seem like a long time.
Post # 7
It was a mutual decision, no waiting. Which was good for me because I don’t have any patience.
Post # 8
It was around 6-7 months that we started talking about it until he asked. In the big picture of is 6-7 months a long time? No it’s not, but it felt like it! I’m 34…I’ve waited for a wedding for a long time. I’ve watched many friends get married and have babies…I feel like I’m 10 years behind everyone. As my mom has always said, good things come to those who wait. 🙂
Post # 9
He asked me at almost the 3 year mark and I had NO IDEA! We had talked about it in passing but I knew I would spend the rest of my life with Mr. Ladybug so it wasn’t a stress for me at all. If we were married or if we did it Oprah and Stedman style. Ha!
Post # 10
July 7, 2010 – My first visit to the jeweler with my fiance (he had been there before)
July 23, 2010 – The day he picked up the ring (per the paperwork)
November 27, 2010 – The proposal
He said that there were a few almost proposals between July and November.
If it helps, we started talking about marriage a few months before we went ring shopping.
Post # 11
We started talking about it after about a year together, and 6 months later he proposed AFTER telling me we would have to wait awhile till he could afford a ring. LIAR LIAR!!!! LOL!!!! It was a BIG suprise for my birthday 🙂
Post # 12
We first started looking at rings in March 2009 but he didn’t propose until June 2010. Life kinda just got in the way which put our engagement on the back burner but it did eventually happen. We were together for over 5 years when he proposed.
Post # 13
Here’s a poll that I asked a couple months ago that is kind of similar to what you’re asking. Hope it helps!
I’m still interested in hearing people’s responses on this thread since some were confused by my confusing questions. I also am interested because my guy has been talking way more about it and moved up our timeline but I just really want to know what others’ experiences are with how long to wait after things are more definite.
Post # 14
Hubs and I started talking rings etc at about the 5-6 month mark, got engaged on our one year anniversary.
We got married a year and two months after we got engaged.
It worked for us, but others need longer.
My husband and I were both over 30, so I think this may have sped things up a little!
Post # 15
Yes my husband had the engagement ring for over a year! We were supposed to go on a big trip and it was delayed a year and we got in a fight so it was pushed back.
Post # 16
It felt like *forever*, but it was only a few weeks/months. After 10 months of dating (we were 39/40 at engagement), we started talking about marriage. By 12-13 months we deciced that we were going to get married and I had picked out my ring. By 14 months, we had the deposit on the venue and I had bought my dress. By 15 months, he *finally* bought the ring. It was 3 weeks from the time he picked up the ring til he actaully proposed. Drove me insane!!!