Post # 1
… what would you do differently?
- Smaller guest list. I only had 116 and still didn’t talk to everyone. We had a fair amount of people that we ‘had’ to invite and I would’ve axed them. We made the conscious decision to spend time with our closest friends and family and unfortunately didn’t spend much with everyone else.
- Smaller budget
- … which would then lead to either a Destination Wedding, or something much more personal and laid-back. I had a DREAM venue but it was admittedly a little OTT.
- Shorter engagement! 16 months was way too long.
- Open beer/wine only. The bar was a shit show.
- No bridal party at all.
- Strongly considered eloping, just us. Parents on both sides really stressed us out.
Post # 3
LOL my list is almost the opposite of yours! I’d have invited more people, paid for an extra hour & spent more time talking to everyone! I would have probably splurged a little more on a few things (like flowers), hence upping the budget a bit. I loved having a big wedding and in hindsight would only wish I could have shared that awesome day with more people and not worried about the money so much 🙂
ETA: I’d also have had the seamstress take out the cups in my dress, they were placed oddly and in some photos I look like I have under-boob cleavage….
ETA2: I’d have grabbed more friends and taken them into the photobooth with me! I did that with a few people but wish I’d done it with everyone 🙂 And I’d have asked the DJ to announce certain things – like that the s’mores bar was open, or that the late night snack was out, or to make sure to get in the photobooth before it closed.
Post # 4
-Larger guest list. I feel really bad about some of the people we left out.
-Different florist. Ours was awful.
-Different centerpieces. I cringe every time I see pictures of our tables.
-Really, a different color scheme… We did purple, black, ivory, and gray. Crimson was our second choice instead of purple. Looking back at the photos, we should have just switched to crimson after choosing our venue. It would have worked a lot better.
-Different DJ. Ours wasn’t bad, but he wasn’t worth how much we paid for him.
-I would have gotten my hair done with all my bridesmaids (probably had one of them do it for me… a couple of them are really, really talented). I didn’t get to spend nearly enough time with them leading up to the wedding, and I really regret that. Anyway, my hair dresser was made of fail and took way too long.
-More pictures. I didn’t get enough of me and Darling Husband together or of me and the bridesmaids. I especially regret that we didn’t get any group photos of the whole bridal party wearing their masks.
-More time in general during the wedding. I don’t think this one would actually be possible, but I just wanted the night to go on and on, and it didn’t. That was sad.
-Go to a prettier church with more lax photography restrictions. I realize that we chose the church because it was DH’s family’s church, not because it would make a pretty backdrop for some awesome close-up photos, but I am sad I didn’t get some of the amazing pictures from the ceremony that I’ve seen some other girls get.
Post # 5
I guess I should consider myself lucky that there is very little I’d change!
– Order more dos equis (only alcohol we ran out of)
– Pay for 1 extra hour at the reception. It was over at 10 and EVERYONE was still there and on the dance floor.
ummmmmmmmm that’s about it!
Post # 6
I would have invited more people…maybe? I mean, we had enough room for more because there was outside space and the weather cooperated, but if it had rained, we’d have been SOL with more people.
I would have worn a different bra and I would have remembered to bring a knife to cut the cake.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t change anything – except to relax a bit more and get more creative in photos – I look at some pictures now and think – why didn’t I do that?!! lol
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2012 - Salvage One, Chicago
Our wedding was really wonderful, but these are the things I would change:
-We would have limited MIL’s guests to half of who she invited! 🙂 not crazy, but I don’t need 14 perfect strangers.
-Added an hour to the reception- it does fly by
-Started photos a little earlier. We started at 2:30, sfirt look at 3pm, ceremony at 6pm. I felt like I was trying to keep everything moving instead of living in the moment a little. I also forgot some of the photos we REALLY wanted, so I would have written those down for the photog.
-I would have nixed/changed my wedding coordinator. I felt a little bait-and-switched and didn’t need the 4 girls they wanted to have at the wedding! I made them cut it to 3, would have preferred 2… They forgot to do some of the things I explicitly asked for and were really only good for setting up the venue. I’m super type A so I was already on top of everything else.
Post # 9
– Different venue for the reception dinner to save money.
– At least one hair trial prior (DIY).
– Gifts for all family who traveled.
– Excluded my mother.
Post # 10
I don’t think I would change too much and what I would love to change (my mother) isn’t possible soooooo…..
-taken more photos with guests/family members (pro or not, doesn’t matter)
-possibly elope? Imagine the amazing world tour we could have taken with all that money. *Sigh* It was worth it though. 🙂
….did I mention changing my mother……
Post # 11
I wish I would have gotten married at the courthouse. As much as I enjoyed having my beautiful wedding, it makes me want to cry thinking about how much we could use that $15K right about now.
Hindsight is 20-20!!
Post # 12
The only thing I would have done differently would have been spend more on a photographer and extend the party until 1am.
Minor mishaps was not writing the speech (if you can even call 3 sentences a speech) down. Mr forgot to thank his mom (I thanked my mom though).
Post # 13
Oh, I would have had the photographer come to the hotel to get the getting ready shots, too. The bride’s room at the church was pretty ugly. 🙁
Post # 14
i really had to think hard about this. i loved the intimate wedding of only 38 ppl. my dress, flowers, venue, etc, all great.
i would change:
have less food at the cocktail hour and late night.
have a dj instead of the ipod. the venue speakers cracked a bit during the louder music during the dance part only.
get more pics of the venue and reception.
Post # 15
I feel very blessed that I was happy with our wedding. We kept it at a budget of 5K, only invited family and friends who actually are in our lives and not just on FB. We didnt supply an open bar because we didnt have the cash and no one cared.
The only think I would have done differently was taken more pictures and hired a limo.
We thought it was a waste of money but I would have enjoyed that time alone with him in the back seat. 🙂
Post # 16
I would have not given in to my Fiance wishes to have a big wedding and instead eloped in Hawaii as I had always dreamed. So EVERYTHING would have been different lol. Just us and an officiant along with a great photographer on a beautiful beach with our own written vows… sigh.
Love being married now of course, but not being more assertive for really wanting to elope for my dream wedding is by far my biggest regret!