(Closed) MARRIEDS: If you could do it all over again….

posted 9 years ago in Recaps
Post # 62
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

– drink, dance, and enjoy myself a little more

– spend more time with certain people

– give the DJ a much more specific playlist. I thought the one I sent him was specific enough but, he played both of the artists on my do not play list, didn’t play a lot of my must play songs, did the dollar dance even though we didn’t want to (and made it sound very money grubby which is why I didn’t want to do it to begin with) and played polka music during the dollar dance which made it even worse.

But, overall I have to say I am very pleased with the way everything turned out. The weather was insanely gorgeous for my outside ceremony, my dress fit perfectly, our handmade centerpieces were the talk of the night, and so far what I have seen of the photographers work she did an amazing job.

Post # 63
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

There’s only a few things I would change:

1. I really wanted to start the ceremony on time & we were about half an hour late due to a variety of factors, some of which were outside of my control.  Even so, if I could do it again, I would allow more extra time for unexpected delays.

2. I would be more specific when telling the DJ what we wanted.  We thought he was going to play a mix of different types of music to get everyone out on the dance floor, but instead he played a long block of each type of music so each generation only danced for the block of time that he was playing their genre of music.

3. I would order the boutonnieres from a florist.  I made all our flowers & was happy with the bouquets & centerpieces, but my husband’s boutonniere kept falling apart.

Overall, I knew there would be things that would go wrong, so I’m pretty happy that all of these mishaps were pretty minor.  I was (and am) just so happy to be married, that none of it bothered me too much.

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I regretted not having different bridesmaids.  My sister and best friend I only invited as formalities because it was what was expected and it would keep the numbers nice and even for the bridal party but I pretty much knew they would be unhelpful flakey bitches and I was right. I would rather have had friends stand up there that maybe I haven’t known for so long but cared more about me an my happiness even at the risk of us growing apart after the event.  

I also wished I had held my vendors more accountable.  I feel like I really wanted to give the impression that I was this ultra laid back, easy going bride so I just let things roll off my back. Vendors would ask me things and I would usually compromise quite a bit on my vision to make their jobs easier.  I tried to give the impression that I also trusted them to make my vision happen but some of them took liberties when they realized how laid back I was and really didn’t deliver.  

Wish I had hired a planner so that I didn’t have to get so stressed out on my own.  

Wish I had danced and drank more but I felt the need to stay coherent as all the guests and family ditched us to do all the clean up on our own and we had a deposit down so we had to stay and make sure everything was good.  

Wish I had made the dress code more clear.  I didn’t want to say black tie because it definitely wasn’t but it was formal.  I guess people saw that it was an outside venue and figured that gave them free range to come in sneakers and hawaiin shirts.  It was just awkward since I was so dressed up and we had an 18 piece swing band.  

Otherwise loved most everything about my wedding particularly the budget and size.  I got to talk with all 50 of my guests!  Loved my venue especially at only $2000.  Loved my dress at $750.  These two things I got the most complements on in my recap and they were the cheapest.  

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Gosh…I’m so glad to be married to my hubby.  I guess if I were to do it again, I’d

1)found weddingbee earlier and gotten advice during the year we were engaged.
2)just get sizes for my bridesmaids, flower girls, jr bridesmaids and just pay for their dress and shoes.  Getting them to try on their dresses and buy them was the biggest task in the whole wide world
3)made the groomsmen where suits
4)listen to my hubby and just have an open wedding.  The friends and family who really wanted to be there would have shown and we wouldn’t have been disappointed about those who didn’t come
5)put parent and grandparent pics by our cake
6)although I love/d my dress, I think I would have bought something just as pretty but cheaper. 
7)told our videographer to start filming from the moment any music started to the moment we drove off. 
8)Made a point to talk more to the guests who travelled long distances
 

Post # 66
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m very content with the outcome my wedding (although I’m pretty easy to please)! BUT, if I did have the chance to do it again, here’s what I would change:

 

– Have a bigger guest list. We were so nervous about staying under the 100 maximum that we gave out invitations somewhat conservatively, but we had more no RSVPs then expected and a lot of no-shows (both in part to the wedding between at least two hours away for everyone).

– Have the ring bearer’s big brother walk down the aisle with him.  He got scared right as he got to the first row of chairs and ran off to the side…poor guy. Amazing what crowds do to people…he’s usually such a ham!

– Made sure my dress was hanging properly in the front before walking down the aisle. Somehow it got bunched up weird in the front and stayed that way through the whole ceremony and it bugs me when I see pictures. 

– Remembered

Post # 67
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m very content with the outcome my wedding (although I’m pretty easy to please)! BUT, if I did have the chance to do it again, here’s what I would change:

 

– Have a bigger guest list. We were so nervous about staying under the 100 maximum that we gave out invitations somewhat conservatively, but we had more no RSVPs then expected and a lot of no-shows (both in part to the wedding between at least two hours away for everyone).

– Have the ring bearer’s big brother walk down the aisle with him.  He got scared right as he got to the first row of chairs and ran off to the side…poor guy. Amazing what crowds do to people…he’s usually such a ham!

– Made sure my dress was hanging properly in the front before walking down the aisle. Somehow it got bunched up weird in the front and stayed that way through the whole ceremony and it bugs me when I see pictures. 

– Remembered to slow down and live in the moment. I don’t even know if its possible for me to have done so, but so much of the wedding ceremony was a blur and I barely can even remember walking down the aisle, or saying my vows, or the recessional, etc. because I was so emotional and just caught up in everything. Luckily things seemed to slow down for the reception and I remember those details pretty clearly 🙂

Post # 68
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I had a perfectly wonderful day.  If I had to change one thing, I’d have loved to have the reception last another hour.  We extended it by an hour when we signed our contract but I wish it could have gone until midnight.  We had most of our guests still dancing at 11pm when it was time for the big sendoff.  I was surprised given it was a Sunday evening wedding.  Honestly, I thought I was going to be exhausted at the end of it, but in the car on the way to our hotel, I didn’t want the day to be over.  I had such a wonderful time!

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What I would change: Hire a proper photographer/videographer.

We eloped and it was perfect just the two of us, but the photos and video were a bit meh… Both our families live far away (we moved two months ago because of a good job offer) so there was no issue with the eloping part since we didn’t want them to spend so much money to travel to our wedding. They were very happy for us and we’re having a nice catchup dinner soon 🙂 

Post # 70
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Bumble Beekeeper

I would have:

-Not worn a veil at all, even for the ceremony

-Been more specific with our florist about our tall centerpeices

-Made sure my Maid/Matron of Honor knew she needed to wear her strapless bra….

Honestly, that’s pretty much it. Our wedding was absolutely amazing and I am still completely in love with it almost 2 years later. 

Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

*bump*

Post # 72
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - The Chapel of the Sir Christopher Wren Building, 2007 Legacy Hall

What an interesting topic! Here are the things I’d do differently

  • Pay for an extra hour with the photobooth. It was a HUGE hit and there were times that the line was 15 people deep!
  • Added a few more people to the guest list. We were SUPER exclusive and there were a couple people that I would add in hindsight
  • Waited a bit longer to choose BMs. I had a 14 month engagement, which isn’t terribly long, but relationships did change over the course.

Besides that, I was so, so happy with the way everything turned out!

Post # 73
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@KristenGotMarried:  I get to do it over again because I am getting married for the second time.

1. New husband Wink

2. Smaller budget (we only spent $8,000 last time but I want to keep it under $5,000)

3. More casual (private room in restaurant for my 1st wedding, beach BBQ for this one)

4. Elope and come back to throw a kick a$$ party to celebrate! (FI won’t go for this because it’s his 1st wedding and he really wants the whole shebang with family and friends present; first compromise of the 2nd wedding)

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