- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2009
Do not think it is necessarily an age thing, but more an expectation (albeit an outdated one) that people get married to start a family. I got married two months after turning 21. My husband is 8 years older. From the moment we got married, they started asking us when we were going to have a kid. His family would bring this up like every weekend. I told them I was not ready and did not want one, and was not planning to have one any time soon since I wanted to put myself through law school first. They still insisted until one day I snapped (not too much) and said I was not planning to have one ’till 2016 so they should stop asking ’cause it is not going to happen. Mind you, this was in 2009. Last year, I graduated from law school, and they brought it up again (we have now been married 4 years), and I again said I was not ready and was going to finish remodeling our house before taking on a child. Their answer: “well… the kid can grow with you guys; things need not be perfect before you have one.” I said I was still thinking 2016. They have not brought it up again. I am they have now shifted their focus to my Brother-In-Law and his soon-to-be wife who is older than I, and will probably have one before I do.