(Closed) Married…which means we must be trying to have a baby right??

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 47
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885 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Do not think it is necessarily an age thing, but more an expectation (albeit an outdated one) that people get married to start a family.  I got married two months after turning 21.  My husband is 8 years older.  From the moment we got married, they started asking us when we were going to have a kid.  His family would bring this up like every weekend.  I told them I was not ready and did not want one, and was not planning to have one any time soon since I wanted to put myself through law school first.  They still insisted until one day I snapped (not too much) and said I was not planning to have one ’till 2016 so they should stop asking ’cause it is not going to happen.  Mind you, this was in 2009.  Last year, I graduated from law school, and they brought it up again (we have now been married 4 years), and I again said I was not ready and was going to finish remodeling our house before taking on a child.  Their answer: “well… the kid can grow with you guys; things need not be perfect before you have one.”  I said I was still thinking 2016.  They have not brought it up again.  I am they have now shifted their focus to my Brother-In-Law and his soon-to-be wife who is older than I, and will probably have one before I do.

Post # 48
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2119 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Im 26 and hes 30.

Its been a month since we have been married and we get it all the time. People are kinda pushy about it too cuz they (friends with kids) want our kids to be close. It seems like since we got engaged we have been asked. its like we wornt ever married yet.

Post # 49
Member
46 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m 34, my husband is 33 (on Friday). We have been married about 20 months and we are getting it now. Especially me…

Post # 50
Member
3667 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m 26, getting married in two years, and my dad has already told me he that if I have a daughter, he wants me to name her after his grandmother I never met. Undecided

Post # 51
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1070 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Wow. My mom asked if I should get my tubes tied because children are awful. His mother has too much tact to ask something like that.

It’s safe to say I won’t be getting any of those comments from either side. (I’m 27, he’s 30).

Post # 52
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1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Yes we are getting it too BUT I have also had the worst case of baby fever for the pat year or so. So everyone knew we were waiting to “tie the know” then go on our honeymoon (we leave this Saturday for 2 weeks). After that, bring on the baby comments:)

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