(Closed) Marry while in school?

posted 9 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My fiance and I are getting married next summer and I’ll have another year and a half of school after that (that’s including student teaching.) We’re been together over three years and I’m 21, he’s 25 and out of school. We chose to get married next summer rather than waiting because my parents said they would give me the same support through college – married or not. So they’re keeping me on their insurance and letting me continue to use their car they bought for me and they’re paying for the upkeep. Other than that, we’re on our own. Every situation is unique. Good luck!

Post # 18
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Helper bee

I’m going to wait until I’m done with school. I’m a med student and school is intense so I know I won’t have the focus to give to a new marriage. Plus I feel it would be unfair to be fully financially dependant on my boyfriend for the cost of the wedding which I would be while still in school.

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

We will wait until about a year after I graduate from my Masters, but my Fiance will still be studying his undergrad degree when we get married, so i will make sure we pick a date when it is between semesters so he doesn’t have to worry about exams, etc at the time of the wedding 🙂

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I know lots of people who married when one was working and one was still in school. So long as one of you is earning an income, and it’s enough for both of you, it’s not a problem. After all, most couples go to one income for a while when they start a family.

To the OP, it sounds like you are earning enough. so I don’t think money is a barrier to you marrying soon.

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t think it matters at all if you get married when one of you it still at uni. If you are concerned about finances, then I think that your first priority should be to do up a joint budget. If you look at all of your expenses, and I mean ALL of them. I account for everything in my budget, including virus protection for my computer, getting my sofas steam cleaned, and putting away for Christmas. Go through a budget, and see if there is money left over to save for the wedding. If there is, start putting that away into savings, and try and sort your wedding out based on when you can afford it all. I think that putting off life so that you can study is silly. Why not do both?

Post # 22
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would wait until you are both done at least with undergrad.  School takes up so much time, and people do change after graduation.  It’s better to wait, have a good bit of money saved up, and then start fresh from there, rather than struggling through starting now.

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It really depends on what stage of schooling you’re talking about. My Fiance and I have both completed our undergraduate degrees. I’m currently working on my Masters and want to wait until I finish that to get married. I should tentatively be completing my thesis for December/January but I’m also in the midst of applying to medical school. So in short, I plan on being married while I’m in school. It made the most sense to us since he’s currently financially stable and we don’t live together so it contrary to most people in school, it actually makes economical sense for us to get married. If we didn’t, I’d be going into extra student debt due to living expenses. My Fiance wants to go back to school for his MBA which he may or may not due while I’m in school. 

I feel like the correct answer to this question would vary from situation to situation. 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am almost done with my associate’s degree and fi is not in school at the moment and we are both working full time and have a place together. We are getting married in 17 days by the way. I am trying to get into nursing school in a couple of years and will try to get that out of the way before starting to have kids. I do agree with @bridezilla421 on how it varies from situation to situation, but if it’s just you and your hubby it will be easier compared to throwing in children into the mix. So try to finish school before having kids!

 

 

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

heartsoul:

 

My fiance and I are both in our 20’s (he’s 24 and I’m 23), and we’re getting married while both of us are still in school. He already has a 4yr degree, but his career plan requires that he at least have a Master’s degree and possibly a PhD (he wants to become a pastor and will begin seminary next year). A master’s degree in Theology requires 4 more years of full time classes, so he’ll be in school for a while. I’m going back to school to finish my 4yr degree in education within the next year or two. Yet we both decided to get married before we graduate because we want to start our lives together now, instead of wating 4-7 more years before school is done. Like you, we’re saving ourselves for marriage, so living together is not an option. Yes, it will be hard to earn a living and finish college, but it’s not impossible. My fiance and I have decided to live very modestly until we graduate and start a family, and I’m very excited to start a home with him even if it does have a very humble beginning! 

So, yes, if you and your boyfriend can come up with a financial budget that will allow you to get married (even if it means living modestly for a time) then go for it!

Good luck!!

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@heartsoul: i will be finishing my last semester when we marry and he will have a lot to do but since he is in the military and gets a lot from them, we are not worried about the money. more worried about him becoming a cop but if i was in your situation, i would say manage your finances. could you support him while he finishes school? would you be house poor or could you do it? fiance is supporting me for the next year until i finish school but then we will switch, and i will work so he can finish school. its about balance and budget! 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@paula1248:  +1

Have you sat down with him and discussed the actual costs and figured out if you have the finances for him to go to school, pay your bills, debts (his and yours), and work out the numbers? If yes, then marriage shouldn’t be an issue. If not, you should do that first.

My SO has gone to school and got a degree and while his current job doesn’t pay as much as we like, we have figured out that we can still get married next summer as planned and I can start school again in the fall, while he supports us. (I would be working and going to school both part time).

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@heartsoul:  I am in school right now and will be up to a week before the wedding! I think it will be fine.  Every break from school I get, I am doing something to prepare for the wedding.  I don’t feel over whelmed just yet but who know’s- I still have 7 months to go!  Plus, the bride to be usually does most of the planning, the groom pretty much just goes along for the ride.  I say you guys will be fine if you married while he is still in school.

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I have friends are… that’s really cool!

Post # 31
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sounds cool

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

Fiance and I are both in school, but we both also have full time jobs. He is a journeyman electrician and I’m a front desk receptionist at a high end hotel… otherwise we wouldn’t be able to afford to live and go to school! haha. But yes, we are getting married while in school.

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