(Closed) Marrying a Cop!

posted 9 years ago in Military
Post # 47
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35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ellyse:  Im in college while he will be at the training(8 months) so I guess that helps a little.  Do those books have have bad endings?  Sorry to ask, but I refuse to read anything bad that has happened to an officer because all I will do is dwell, worry, make myself sick, etc.  There was a trooper that got killed right around the time my Fiance brought this up.  I cried, and cried.  Also, I am a very bad worrier.  

Post # 48
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9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Nice to see this thread revived.  I probably mentioned this five months ago, but just in case, I highly recommend this book to all police officers and their families that want to understand the physiological effects of the career and make a conscious effort to mitigate the effects. 

 My husband’s been an officer for 7 years, and we’ve been together about that long, and married for three.  It definitely has it’s ups and downs and craziness. 

@southerncutie7:  I’m always more than happy to chat about our experiences, so feel free to PM anytime!

Post # 49
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35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@SapphireSun:  I actually started a thread called Marrying a Trooper, then I felt silly because as soon as I posted it I came across this one.  I do not want to become apart of that ‘statistic.’  I love him dearly.  

I have to admit when he first brought it up, I refused.  We fought and fought about it.  

Thank you for the advice.  And I’m sure I will be ‘stalking’ these posts when time gets closer and closer for him to leave.

Post # 50
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@southerncutie7:  A Chip on My Shoulder is written from the perspective of a CHP wife and is more a guide to marriage. Bullets in the Washing Machine is a collection of stories, both good and bad, from families across the country.

The book  @SapphireSun:  mentioned was reccomended at his academy’s family night. I haven’t gotten around to reading it.. yet!

I am in college too while my Fiance is at the academy about 20 minutes away. Keeping busy has been really helpful but we also do a lot of study dates : ) However, I had to stop helping him with arrest technique. It’s way too rough for my little wrists!

 

Post # 51
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35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ellyse:  You got lucky on the distance.  His training is a good 4+ hours away from where live, 5+ where I go to  school.  

And might I add, from your picture, ya’ll are adorable together.

Post # 52
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@southerncutie7:  We got lucky on distance but he is not guaranteed a job afterwards and we are paying his way through.

 

And thanks! This is one of the only engagement pictures we took that we look somewhat normal. haha.

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