(Closed) Marrying a Cop

posted 8 years ago in Military
Post # 4
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

FI’s an EMT. I don’t know how police officer’s shifts work, but he spends 1 on and 2 off. It’s kind of weird, because our parents are encouraging us to start establishing when we’re going to be at each house for holidays and stuff, but we never know when he’ll have off, so it’s really hard. We’re sticking close to both of our families, so we’ll just all have to be flexible and appreciate that we can hit both houses on one day.

We actually don’t even live together yet, so I’m not 100% sure what it will be like once we’re married, but the fact he’s going be gone so much also makes me really grateful we’re sticking close to our families and friends.

Post # 6
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

My brother is a police officer. He does Christmas and all holidays a day later then the actual holiday.  It works out, his wife spends time with her family and then us the day after.  He volunteers to work those dates, he’s been a cop forever and has seniority but they make BANK working overtime on holidays. 

My SIL says since my brother is older now he has calmed down and isn’t a daredevil.  She feels much better since he isn’t a motorcycle cop anymore.  I do know that she and my mom had a harder time with it in the begining but … not for too long.  He was meant to be a cop.

It’s provided a very nice life for him and his family, he’s paid for two kids to get thru college, bought a house, cars, vacations, a wedding.  He’s tried talking us all into becoming a police, and in fact a girl i grew up with is one in his precinct.   

Post # 7
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I definitely know what you mean about him coming home a little cranky. FI’s always so tired when he gets off his shift (understandably!), but I think it will work better once I have a 9-5 job since he’ll be able to sleep a bit while I’m at work.

Post # 8
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708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

My Fiance is a firefighter. It isn’t the easiest lifestyle. We have lived together for 2 years now, and can be a little lonely. I am more worried about schedules when we have kids. Also, I am a total planner, and it is very difficult to plan anythng around his schedule. However, my attitude is now more “it is what it is”. We have never spent Thanksgiving or Christmas together. I go home to my family in VA and he works. Selfishly it’s kind of nice not to have to worry about splitting up the holidays, because I like being with my own family. ๐Ÿ™‚ I think all of this will change once kids come into the picture and we move out of the city. We may start doing holidays at our house instead of me traveling all the time.

Post # 9
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467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

my Fiance is a police officer, and its been hard, im not going to lie.  this year, he works christmas eve, christmas, and the day after.  so, christmas eve im spending the day with him until he goes in at 7 – then christmas day coming home to see him when he wakes up until he has to go in again.

as far as advice, it took me a while to remember that he didn’t want to be somewhere else, that he just couldnt because of his work schedule – and that him not going would be the equivalent of me just not showing up to work on a tuesday from 9 to 5.  and, we’ve really made an effort to spend as much “special time” as we can together on the nights and weekends that he’s not working.  i’m lucky though, because we live in the town where he’s an officer, so he can come home for dinner and on breaks, which many people he work with can’t do.

and, it’s actually kind of nice sometimes when he works and im at home (like tonight) – it gives me that space that i still need, and gives him the same during the day when im at work.  so then i dont feel bad about watching a muppet’s christmas carol all night ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 10
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708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Lovebird724: Haha, Fiance was working last night and I flipped back and forth between Sing Off and Miracle on 34th Street. No Monday night football for me! Tonight he is working again and i have dinner with the ladies planned. It is nice to have some alone time.

Post # 12
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467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@magilnyc: and @JenniCobalt: ahhh glad im not the only one!  ive been DVRing cheesy christmas movies for about a week – theres a marathon in store for tonight haha

Post # 13
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1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Future police family here! ๐Ÿ™‚

FH is working Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and New Years Eve.  We are hosting Christmas Day for the first time this year.  Well, I am hosting. I will be crazy busy with having his family over as well as my parents arriving from overseas.

We are lucky, I guess. We live in the town he works in and in/near his usual sectors. Whenever there is nothing going on, he can be home for parts of his shift. He takes his lunch break at home. We do get to have dinner together often, which I love! It took me a while to get used to police life, I’m not gonna lie, but now I don’t know it any other way. I’m used to him running out on a call in the middle of dinner. You can get used to it!  But you do need to make an effort to spend time together!

He will try to come home as much as possible on his Christmas shift, but holidays are usually busy.

Post # 16
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3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My Fiance is a police officer, and this year is the first year in 3 years we’ll spend the holidays together. (we’re relocating, so he is unemployed at the moment). 

It’s been hard, because he works nights, and he gets home at 6am and all he wants to do is go straight to sleep. He gets up around 2 or 3pm, so that messes up all holiday schedules. So, the past 3 years, he gets home from work, we do presents and enjoy the morning together, and then he sleeps all day. 

I hear all of you girls – it’s a unique situation but the men in uniform are so worth it ๐Ÿ™‚

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