- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Background: I’ve been with FH for 5ish years now, and known him for 7-8. In the beginning we struggled with jealousy – on both parts. But as time went on, it got better – at the point where I am not jealous at all. Not even one bit. I trust him to the fullest. He says he does too.
Last night I mentioned to him that a friend of mine was performing in BK, and we should go because we haven’t been there in a while, and I wanted to have a mini date & eat somewhere nice, and also do something different (live music, also free – bonus).
So…that brought on the ultimate moody face & snarky comments and questions. E.g. “So who’s this friend of yours?” “Didn’t you date a musician?” “He’s buff right?”
All of those questions were filled with snark and jealousy and I answered them all with a cool/collected tone pretending I didn’t know what he was talking about. But I did. And it burned me on the inside.
I wanted to scream at him & remind him what a f****** a$$hole he is acting like. But I did not want to yell at 11pm on a Thursday – we were both tired, and cranky. And there was no point in me fueling the fire. So I left it along & we hugged, kissed, and cuddled like usual.
This morning, I woke up angry. I hate arguing over text but I had to get this out of my chest even though we have discussed this multiple times, face to face, and it seems that we come to an agreement. But people don’t change I guess.
This was my text:
“I didn’t mention it last night because there was no point in arguing that late, we were tired & it was ridiculous anyway…but I saw what you did with the musician. You have to know something: It Really REALLY pissed me off, even now. I am not marrying a jealous teenage boy. If you want to act like that, you should go be with a teenage girl. I love you. “
I have this prepared in my head to say to him when I see him home (because I do not want to go back and forth in text) :
“This is an ongoing battle, and I’m sick of it. If I wanted to cheat, I wouldn’t wait until we got engaged, bought a house, plan a family…..I think you confuse me with other girls. And it’s disrespectful & not attractive at all.”
…there is absolutely no point to this thread other than to just vent. I do not want to bring this up to my mother, or my BFF because really, I just don’t care to involve them & it should be a non issue.
Thanks for reading bees. Any words you may have to share with me are more than welcome.
ETA: I know my text today was wrong. We do not do this – we do not argue over anything other than face to face. It’s done, I sent it, and I do feel bad. As immature as it was, his immaturity through out the years just got to me – and it felt like we were backtracking last night. He is acting like the teenage boy he was.