(Closed) Marrying into a big family,… with a LOT of traditions

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3042 posts
Sugar bee

I think this is a perfect opportunity to learn the art of compromise. Especially on his side, but yours, too. Maybe you each get to pick 2 things you feel strongly about (you- decor, him- start time) and then everything else can fall into place around that? 

Post # 4
3266 posts
Sugar bee

It sounds like your FI wants things to be 100% the way his family wants it, and with their traditions. What about what you/your side want?

That would not fly with me.

You are getting married and details about the actual wedding will be some of your first compromises as a married couple.

I like the pp ideas that you each get to pick x number of things and then work around it.

Post # 5
326 posts
Helper bee

Are you certain that you wouldn’t be allowed get married in a catholic church? I’m from Ireland so it might be different but there are certainly second marraiges and marraiges to other faiths preformed by catholic priests here. If you have to invite all of his family how mana people would that be? I would give in on the all-day celebration, people do it here all that time and manage. However don’t give in on the decor. I’m not sure that it would feel like a wedding to you without it. 

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