(Closed) Marrying your best friend?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Are you marrying your best friend?
    Yes : (186 votes)
    82 %
    No : (31 votes)
    14 %
    Other (explain) : (11 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 2
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    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Aside from my brother, who I’m very close to, my fiance is my best friend. In fact, we were friends for about 15 years before we figured it out! 

    Post # 3
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    816 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I have multiple best friends, and they’re all on the same level of best– asking me to pick one is like asking a mom to pick her favorite child, which I don’t think many moms could do. I have the best friend I grew up with, the best friend I went to high school with, the best friend I went to college with, and my fiance. They’re all different people, they have all served different purposes in my life, and they’re all tied for “#1 Best Friend” in my book!

    I don’t think your fiance has to be your only best friend, but the “he’s a close friend, not my best friend” thing kind of leaves me scratching my head. It kind of makes me think “I am fond of this person,” not “I love this person,” but to each their own, of course.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    4028 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    SO is one of 3 people I give the Best Friend designation. I have 2 female friends who also rank there. One I refer to as my ‘Platonic Life Partner’ lol because we were both single for a long time and were always each others date to events and traveled together. And when we’re really old and our husbands pass we’re gonna live together. I consider SO a best friend because we do friend stuff together like cruising around out in the mountains and just talking about everything. I’m super attracted to him, sex is amazing, but a lot of our time is just spent hanging out too…I’m failing to explain it accurately.. but he is definitely one of my BFF’S. 

    Post # 5
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    644 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: A restaurant on the beach

    When we’re 85 and the sex has presumably (?) dried up, I want friendship to fall back on. So yes, my Fiance is my best friend. We have known each other since we were 13, started dating at 15, and will be married next year when we’re 26. I grew up with this man and the only other person I’ve been friends with longer is my twin sister (and that’s a rocky friendship lol). 

    Post # 7
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    4250 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I wouldn’t say my husband is my best friend.  We are definitely good friends and I can talk to him about anything and everything…and of course we have fun together, but my best friend(s) are other people.

    My best friend in the whole world has been there for me through soooo much and she knows more about me than I care to admit.  We have a deep friendship and understanding of each other.  She’s the sister I never had.  We never fight ever, and we “get” each other so well it’s almost freaky sometimes haha.

    Post # 8
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    6839 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Yes, my husband is my best friend. That doesn’t mean that I can’t also have another best friend. In fact, I have 2!

    I tell my husband everything and he knows me better than I know myself half the time. He is my best friend and I am his. In fact, that was in our wedding vows. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    That said, I also have 2 other best friends that I love dearly. They were the Matron of Honor and Man of Honor in our wedding.

    Post # 9
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    816 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    mfox89:  I also rejected the “best friend” label for my fiance because I felt like I was under some obligation to call him my that, and also because somehow it made me think that if I called him my best friend I was “too dependent on a man,” which my mom always harped on about. But now, I’ve kind of realized that A), it’s ok to have more than one best friend, and B), it’s also ok to depend on another person to a certain extent, as long as that dependence doesn’t get in the way of you doing your own thing when you want to/have to. Since then, I’ve sort of reclaimed the title for him haha.

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 5 months ago by  almostaudrey.
    Post # 10
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    3485 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    I have 3 best friends, so it’s not like I think the title can only go to one person, but my Fiance is not one of them. I’ve never thought of him as my best friend. He’s in a different “category” by himself. We have a fantastic friendship as the foundation of our relationship, but I’m not marrying one of my best friends. 

     

    Post # 11
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    1219 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it’s turned into a bit of a cliche to say “I’m marrying my best friend”. My Darling Husband is not my best friend. Ive been friends with him for a long time and I have no doubt whatsoever that I married the right guy, but my Boyfriend or Best Friend is someone I gossip with, go shopping with, watch films together, and yes sometimes bitch about my Darling Husband. DH and i do lots together but he hates shopping and my kind of films so I prefer to hang out with other friends. 

    Post # 12
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    10018 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think it depends on your personal definition of a best friend.  The person I most enjoy spending time with, the person I think of first to tell anything and everything to, the person I feel the closest to, the person I want to live with, talk with, share with, vacation with, etc., is my definition of my best friend, which is my husband.  However, it’s a passionate relationship that goes beyond mere friendship.

    The person I can vent unreservedly about my in-laws with (lol), share a longer history with, who knows more nitty, gritty, ugly details of my former dating/past life – that’s my friend whom I’ve known ten years longer than I’ve even known my husband, so she’s my best friend-friend. 

    My husband is my best friend in a different way.

    Post # 15
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    1565 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    ^ That’s how I feel about the “best friend” title. I laughed so hard when I saw that episode because I remember being irrationally jealous that my best friend in high school had someone else she also called her best friend. I’ve since come to realize that it’s OK to have more than one “best” friend. I only have a tiny handful of friends I classify as my best friends, but I definitely count my husband as one of them. 

    I was married before to someone who refused to call me his best friend and I’ll admit that bothered me. But by the time our marriage fell apart I realized that he was right. We’d never been each other’s best friend, and maybe that was part of what was lacking in our relationship. When I met my now-husband, I suddenly realized what all of the cliches meant about being with your best friend. I feel like I can tell him anything, he listens to me on good days and bad, supports me and gives me advice when I need it, and I feel like he’ll always be there for me no matter what. If that’s not a best friend, what is?

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