(Closed) Massive Layoffs and Wedding Planning

posted 11 years ago in Money
Post # 17
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818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I work at the county sheriff’s office and our whole county is going through budget cuts and supposed to be laying off anywhere between 30-90 people. I am at the bottom of the totem pole in the sheriff’s office because I just started working there last December so if anyone is going to be cut, it’s going to be me. My Fiance and I are supposed to be getting married next March and I don’t know how we’re going to live if I don’t have a job. He is manager at a pet store which is a good job, but not good enough to support two people. I could use your prayers please.

Post # 18
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Second-year law student here. I’ve had a nearly impossible time trying to even get a summer job… and I’ve even told most of the places I’ve applied to that I’m willing to work for free if they just let me help out and shadow– they can "use me" all they want. The response? They don’t even have enough work to keep the people they PAY busy… so I would just be in the way. 

Post # 19
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38 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m in finance and as you know all the banks and industry is struggling.. Fortunately we both have our jobs as well.. but we are still scared daily.. eee seems so hard to justify costs if you know that could be your savings you could be living off if needed. eee

Post # 20
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Wannabee

My husband and I got our bar results last November, right after we got back from our honeymoon.  We’ve been looking for jobs since then, but so far no luck.  I went to a job interview yesterday for a law clerk position (!).  The interviewing attorney told me that he was originally looking for a 3rd year law student, but when a bunch of attorneys applied, he threw out all the law student resumes and only interviewed attorneys so that he can get his money’s worth (not in those words).  It’s scary out there. 

 

Depending on your financial situation, it may be wise to spend conservatively on your wedding — it may spare you financial stress in the future.

Post # 21
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009 - University of Michigan Union

I was laid off (automotive design) pretty early in my planning. Luckily, Mr. Taffy got a raise around the same time, and it happened right before we moved in together, so that worked out. It would still be much better if I was working though!

Planning a wedding and searching for a job is exhausting!!!! Really, really exhausting. I can’t wait to find something.

Hope all of you in legal are ok! 

Post # 22
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271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

This thread is scaring me. I’m a second year law student and right now I’m just worried about finding a job when I graduate. I just hope the market gets better by then.

I second AlmostMrsG, its hard to even find work when you are agreeing to work for free. Most people in my class have found summer employment, but it isn’t even close to what they "dreamed" of getting.

Good luck to you all.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

OMG try banking it is so scary. Especially since I am in the loan dept. Even though I still have my job for now they are constantly sending this out of state. I have had nightmares about getting laided off right before the wedding or coming back from our honeymoon only to find I don’t have a job.

Post # 24
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604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My company is tied really closely to the Automotive Industry…and while I’ve survived 2 rounds of layoffs I’m still afraid of what’s to come.  Thankfully Fiance is in a more scientific position that seems to be stable (heavy emphasis on the word seems).  We are paying for most of the wedding ourselves, but have been careful to set aside 3 months of our salaries into savings just in case.  It’s nerve-racking….but then again I’m thankful for the jobs we have at the moment.  I didn’t realize the legal industry was being impacted so severely….keeping you all in my thoughts!

@Taffy – I’d forgotten you were automotive as well.  I haven’t flown up to "the office" in a few months.  How is moral in the DTW/AA area since the latest announcements?

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m a second year associate at a BigLaw firm and our firm just went through layoffs just less than a month ago and our wedding is in August.  Fortunately I survived this round and also, my fiance is not in the legal industry.  However, it definitely caused a lot of stress in terms of us arguing about money because it made me realize that I was footing most of the bill in terms of the cost of the wedding (him and I are paying for most of the wedding ourselves) and yet in terms of ratio of guests, his family was inviting more than my side.  The lesson learned from this is that I should have put my foot down in the beginning in terms of how many people his family could invite so there wasn’t such a large imbalance in terms of how many members were coming from his side, especially since I was footing the majority of the bill.  The other thing that we also checked on was the possibility of cancelling/postponing our honeymoon if I lost my job since there was not way we were getting our deposits back.

The other suggestions above are good too in terms of prioritizing what’s really important; we decided to forego dance lessons since we didn’t really need them and we didn’t really need a photobooth (although when I found out I didn’t get laid off, we did end up going with the photobooth).  We’re still spending frugally despite us both having our job because I live with the same sense of paranoia as you do unfortunately.

Post # 26
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23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

AlmostMrsG – Both my fiance and I work at a top corp law firm in nyc and we defintely don’t have enough work for our own associates to do.  Billing 7.5 hours a day to "professional reading" is pretty depressing!

Our firm has been reeally slow.  I work in a banking group too so we’ve been hit pretty hard.  There haven’t been any layoffs yet but there are always rumors.  And of couse there are salary freezes for everyone – admin staff and associates.  I recently told a vendor that I needed more time to think (we might push the wedding back a year) because of the field we work in and how hard we’ve been hit and he badgered me and told me how next year the prices would be even higher.  What an asshole!  Its a moot point if I don’t have a job in a month.  The Wedding industry will never cease to amaze me (especially when it comes to being out of touch with the REAL world).

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Sending some positive vibes to all of you who are in shaky job environments!

Fiance is quite lucky — he works at a smaller business on the development team and the company NEEDS his whole team to do what they do + the boss loves him so he should be secure for a while. He was also able to get a raise a few months back, which is extremely helpful to us, since I haven’t been able to find a full time job in the area and probably won’t be able to until after the wedding — with the traveling between CA and my hometown for the wedding in the next few months, I don’t see anyone wanting to hire me! It’s difficult because I work in a creative field and no one is really hiring for my experience level. I’m able to do a little freelance on the side but it still doesn’t change the fact I can’t contribute as much to our finances as Fiance does…I hate that! Anyway, I’m just throwing myself into wedding planning for the time being, keeping one eye open on job postings at all times, and hoping for the best!

Post # 28
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48 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

YES!!!!!!  I am an attorney and used to work for a non-profit.  Funding got low and cuts started happening.  It has made wedding planning sheer torture and we are not even trying to have a big expensive wedding.  I went through a phase where I did not want to do, see or talk about anything wedding related, because I was depressed about the budget.   I have been out of work for about a year and cannot find anything.  People at the gym, where I work part-time, are shocked that I am an attorney and out of work.  To make matters worse, ALL FOUR of our parents have been laid off too….The only advise I can give you is to save money now and don’t go into debt for the wedding.

Post # 29
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Ugh! I totally feel for you all. I am a teacher and was given a pink slip on Monday. I think the budget for next year will pass and everything will be ok, but the limbo and not knowing is killing us! My Fiance is a grad student, so we really need my paycheck to survive. It really makes spending on our wedding seem ridiculous when it is uncertain if we will be able to pay our rent come August.

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I totally understand – I’m a new attorney, still looking for legal work. In the meantime I working as an administrative assistant. So not how I pictured things when I started law school and took out all those loans. Thankfully, my fiance’s job seems secure, and I make enough to cover bills and put a little away. Its a terrible time. 

Post # 31
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31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am not in the legal field but I have become a casualty of the economy,  I lost my job last week when my company laid off 25% of its workforce. We just finished putting all the deposits down for our vendors. We are not in freak out mode yet as my company was very generous and gave me two months severance.  So I feel I have time to find another job.  At this point we are not putting the wedding plans on hold (we are paying for it mostly ourselves).  If it gets closer to the end of the two months and I am still without a job (god forbid) then we will have to reevaluate things at that point.  I am still optomistic. However, I do feel a relief of not having to worry if its going to happen to me anymore.  I had that sense for a few days prior and it sucked. Anyway, good luck to all of us out there and heres hoping no more bees loose thier jobs.

Christine

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