Massive rant – so fed up

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 16
10231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

Losing taste and smell is one of the first symptoms of COVID. Sorry your plans got changed, but please monitor yourself. Take your temp often! 

Post # 17
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

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jaydeeplatinum :  I have to starkly disagree with this. While there are so many people in dire situations do to all of this, OPs hardships are just as valid. Everyone needs to recognize that everything from the absolute most minut détail to the biggest most horrendous thing sucks right now. No need to compare or give the ole “people are dying” thought process. 

OP, sending so much love to you. I can’t imagine how desperate you are to feel some sense of normalcy and positivity. Hang in there, life will look up! And I like to think that all of what you are experiencing is setting you up for something so worth the wait. 

As for your fiancé, I’m so disappointed to hear how he is acting. Now is the time for couples to ban together and support one another. He should have told you he would marry you any day any time anywhere. I pray he gets his head out of his behind soon. 

Post # 18
1932 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Confused why people are piling on OP when in every other thread we’re being careful not to minimize how each person is affected. 

Sorry you’re going through a hard time! cry Sounds like you may very well have COVID-19 based of your loss of taste/smell, so please take care.

Post # 19
730 posts
Busy bee

LOL at the typical WB response of any imperfect communication or unhelpful argument means rethinking the entire relationship. I’m glad no one on this site has ever said anything unhelpful or had their partner not be their best in an argument. I think there’s always room to improve communication skills.

OP, I’m sorry you are dealing with so much. Maybe when the courts open have your civil ceremony with your dad and then plan a reception on a date your Fiance will agree to? Have you been open with your Fiance about the concerns with your dad? I know sometimes it feels taboo speaking those kind of concerns out loud. AFAIC he’s being unreasonable and being that hard-headed over the date is in its self immature. 

Post # 20
1703 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I’m sorry about all that you’re going through!

Your fiance is being an absolute tool. His default reaction of calling you immature for being upset is unacceptable. Ironically, you’re doing the “mature” thing by planning ahead and being realistic about available dates. If your partner habitually shuts you down when you’re upset, rather than talking things through, that is a serious problem that won’t change with marriage 

You may not be able to have a full blown wedding or a legal one, but you can still dress up for photos. You can take wedding photos with your father and family, have a little champagne and meal, and that way you’ll have the memories and so will he. If you don’t want your fiance to see the dress, you can do the photos with just him and you, like a pre first look.

Good luck!

Post # 21
19 posts

My wedding was April also and had to be rescheduled. I am pregnant. I was going to get married before it showed and tell my family afterward at the reception. Now I can’t even travel to tell them in person. We live on opposite coasts. It’s something we will be able to tell the story of forever. You can still do something special and amazing that’s small for now. You’ll have two weddings 🙂

Post # 23
9255 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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misshavisham25 :  Glad you’re feeling better, bee. Last week was hard on a lot of us for various reasons. Best wishes going forward.

Post # 24
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

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Daisy_Mae :  I agree with that! I think we all needed to adjust and rant a little. Glad you’re feeling better and were able to pick a new date.

Just FYI, I actually wanted that date myself, 4/3/21, but it’s Holy Saturday (day before Easter Sunday in the US not sure where you’re located) and my church wouldnt allow us to marry that day. May not be an issue for you but figured I’d mention it!

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