(Closed) matching day-of outfits–choose your favorite (or are they ridiculous)

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What matching outfit option would you LOVE as a bridesmaid? Or are they ridiculous?

    Lululemon hoodies in a matching shade

    plum pretty sugar-esque patterned robes

    cotton/terry robes (like a spa robe) w/ monograms

    matching button down shirts w/ monograms

    matching is ridiculous, don't subject your bridesmaids to that!

    OTHER (PLEASE COMMENT!)

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Will this be considered their gift or part of their gift or is it something extra that you will be paying for?

    If it is their gift or part of their gift then I think buying props fro your wedding photos and giving them as a gift is not being a really good friend. But if it is not for their gift and you would be ok if someone chooses not to wear it, then knock yourself out.

    Post # 18
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I love the look of the floral patterned robes so that’s what I’m doing. 🙂

    Post # 19
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Anything lululemon would be cool. I like the matching thing. I think it’s cute & makes for great photos.  Also, it’s not very often that anyone matches with a group of girls like that so I think that the rare ooccasion makes it fun! 

    Post # 20
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    Mine loved theirs, if it makes you feel better =)

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    We’re going to get ready in black yoga pants (bring your own, they all own them) and matching plaid button downs.  I love plaid.  My Fiance thinks the plaid obsession is a Canadian thing.  So it works with our wedding. 

    My Maid/Matron of Honor (aka my sister) bucked.  Apparently she thinks she looks bad in plaid (for the record, the girl is gorgeous.)  I don’t care.  I’ll let her choose the plaid shirt, that’ll make her happy.  And she’ll get her turn to make me wear whatever ridiculous thing she wants when she gets married. 😛  

    These shirts will not be part of their gifts.  We’re getting married at a ski resort, so it works with the whole feel of the weekend.  

    My girls would not like robes.  I’ll be honest, even I don’t like the robes very much.  I absolutely hate floral patterns, so those were out no matter how much everyone else liked them.  And one of my girls has modesty requirements.  I don’t want her to feel uncomfortable, ever.  In lulus and a plaid button down she’ll be totally covered and comfortable.  That matters way more than photos. 

    Post # 24
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I plan on purchasing the girls robes for the morning of, simply because I know that for getting ready photos it looks a little more cohesive. My sister didn’t bother and there are photos of me in a ripped t-shirt with no bra, my other sister in booty shorts, etc. because we got swept up in the craziness of the morning that we didn’t even realize the photographer had shown up and started snapping pictures until it was too late. 

    I want to select robes that are similar, but not all the same color or all the same fabric. I’ve seen tons of examples of Etsy of different color floral fabrics that I could buy on top of their bridesmaid gifts. It works well with my theme and I think my ladies will be okay with it. I think it depends on what your ladies are okay with, but I’ve seen both sides and feel like a more cohesive look makes for better pictures. 

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    @ilovegreenbeans:  To me a real gift is giving something that the individual would like. I really hate how people treat their friends as clones who would all like the same thing. We are all different. I look at shopping for Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts like shopping for the person’s birthday. You wouldn’t buy them all the same thing for their birthday right?

    I got my Maid/Matron of Honor a new charm bracelet with two charms that were meaningful to our relationship (a breast cancer ribbon charm and a charm representing our travels together) and my cousin who was a pregnant Bridesmaid or Best Man, I got a pamper day at the spa because that is what she likes to do and wouldn’t be able to afford after the baby came. For my sister I got her a copy of a  book that we loved as children and reminds us of our grandmother and a voucher for 10 free nights of babysitting by me. The book only cost $5 at a secondhand store and now she can share it with her children.

    Post # 26
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    @ilovegreenbeans:  my friend got us all pink satin robes with our initials on them (i would not recommend initials as i’m getting married and changing my name and so my initials will change) and the getting ready pictures came out GREAT – i loved one so much that she got it for me on a canvas print! lol we looked great in them

    i’m doing something similar – i haven’t gotten yet, but i’m considering this shirt: https://www.etsy.com/listing/127806930/bow-tank-top-mint-small-limited-edition?ref=favs_view_21 (with nothing on it – no “bridesmaid” or name or anything, so they can wear it again if they want) and some lace shorts (like this https://www.etsy.com/listing/172936138/maui-wowie-crochet-shorts-bohemian-beach?ref=favs_view_2) my only issue right now is it “matching” as an outfit as a whole (like i’m not sure that the shirt actually matches the shorts.

    i agree that it looks better in pictures when the BMs are matching in some way – they will match with their dresses, too, so i don’t think it’s trying too hard by any means.

    in addition to the robes, she got us each something different – either a cosmetics bag with some sort of makeup in it (depending on the girl) or a jewelry roll with some jewelry in it (which is what i got) and the jewelry in it was more than just the jewelry to wear the day of.

    while i agree that the gift should include something personal for the Bridesmaid or Best Man as a token of appreciation and not just be something that you give her to use the day of the wedding, just because she can use it the day of the wedding doesn’t mean it’s not a gift. i still use the robe she got us! i’m not even that big of a robe person, but now that i have one and it’s there, i have been using it a bit.

    in addition to the outfits i’m getting my girls, i’m also planning on taking them on an excursion (destination wedding) and getting their day of jewelry which will not be so fancy that they couldn’t wear it again in the future.

    so, bottom line – get them matching outfits if that’s what you want and yes, it can be part of their gift (as long as it’s something they can/will wear again in the future).

    Post # 27
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

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    @ilovegreenbeans:  it was their gift- they were expensive though, and I knew beforehand they wanted them. They aren’t embroidered or anything, just plain

    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

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    @ilovegreenbeans:  Dude – I think that’s more than enough.  You think spending $200/BM isn’t enough?….holy crap……..I think whatever you get them to show your appreciation for being part of your day is enough, and I think what you’ve selected is lovely.  (fyi, if I had spent that much on each Bridesmaid or Best Man, that would have been 10% of my total wedding budget….Nope, didn’t do that).

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

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    @ilovegreenbeans:  Umm, I think you’re maybe replying to someone else’s comment, not mine?  Stop beating yourself up!  I think you’re being really generous, and it doesn’t need to be such a big deal!  Your friends, if they are true friends, are not going to be mad at you because the fancy expensive gifts you’re getting them are not all unique and individually selected.  This is your wedding, not their birthday. Chill, you did great, stop worrying so much about it!

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

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    @ilovegreenbeans:  I love Alexis Bittar. I think your presents are amazing. 

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