Post # 1
Did you “match” your dress to venue or do you think it’s unnecessary? Can you wear a ballgown on the beach or a vintage 20s number to a nightclub?
I’m having a lot of trouble narrowing down what I want in a dress and was wondering how you decided more on the style of the dress or did you just try things on until you found something you liked on you?
If your venue or theme (I know some have a theme) played a role, I’d love to see pics of your venue/theme/inspiration and dress!
Post # 3
@stuckinwonderland: We are getting married in a super fast beach ceremony, followed by a backyard BBQ reception….and I went with the dress I really wanted, which is a mermaid gown. Great idea, right?
What I had not considered, however, is how fucking hot it’s going to be in Florida in the summer when this all takes place. With that in mind, I’m now purchasing a second shorter dress to wear for the reception.
So, in hindsight, I still would have purchased the same style of dress because I loved it, but I also could have given some thought to my own comfort :-p
Post # 4
i purchased a dress i loved that happened to match the venue. i think you should wear what makes you happy and what you will feel beautiful in. its your day, dress how you want.
Post # 5
@stuckinwonderland: I would wear a ballgown on the beach as long as it’s light. I’ve seen some brides on Say Yes to the Dress do this. I wore a ballgown at my country ranch wedding venue. I actually had the dress before I picked the venue so… yeah, I wasn’t planning on changing my dress. It ended up being a coldfront 2 days before my wedding in April (yeah, TX weather for ya!) so it was a bit chilly and I was happy with the bit heavy dress.
Post # 6
I did, though I matched it more to the formality of the reception than the venue per se. I’m having an early evening garden wedding followed by a formal indoor reception so I picked a dress (well, so far I picked two finalists) that could bridge those two things. My religion emphasizes simplicity, so that was a third aesthetic I had to balance – I loved some Jenny Packhams and a glitzy but light & airy dress would have worked for the garden & reception, but I couldn’t bring myself to wear that much crystal & sparkle to my religious ceremony!
Post # 7
I feel that you should wear what you want. How often do you get to wear a wedding gown? I think it looks better when the gown goes with the venue and level of formality, but if doing that would involve not wearing the gown you love, then I don’t think it’s worth it. If you’re like me and have trouble deciding, looking at how the gowns go with your venue may help narrow the field.
Post # 8
Do whatever makes you feel comfortable. My dress “matches” my venue/s, but my venues “match” the theme/style of my wedding and so does my dress so I couldn’t really avoid it. I’ve seen people wear ballgowns to the court house and the wedding police didn’t come and arrest them, so do what you want! 🙂
Post # 9
I didn’t match my dress to my venue. I picked what I liked.
Post # 10
I picked what I liked, but I did have my venue in mind. The dress I liked best happened to go perfectly with my venue!
I think it’s most important to pick what is flattering and comfortable on you, and then think about how it goes with your venue if you still need to narrow it down.
Post # 11
Not really? I guess they kind of go together?
Post # 12
@stuckinwonderland: I don’t think you need to match your dress deliberately. However when the time comes to get a dress, make sure it’s kind of appropriate. Don’t get a giant poofy ballgown if you’re getting married on the beach. If it’s a formal romantic and black tie event, don’t go in a tea-length gown.
I had to choose between two dresses when I picked mine. I LOVED the one I didn’t get, but it was way too fancy. If I wore it, I’d need to get married at a cathedral to fit in. It was stunning but way too out of place for the small cozy restaurant vibe we’re going to have. My current dress doesn’t really match the vibe (bright and shiny) but it’s much closer.
So go with what you like, just keep in mind your setting and if you’ll look ridiculous in it where you’re going to be! And if you decide you love it anyway? Screw it. It’s your wedding, wear what you love!
Post # 13
I feel like if you love a dress, it will work. Maybe not weather-wise, but at least thematically. Plus, you can dress up/down practically any venue to suit your dress more, if you’re worried. For example, put some luxury furniture on a beach and voila – more ball-gown appropriate, if you were bothered. I think many times it’s very chic for a bride to dress outside what one would expect at a venue.
Post # 14
I didn’t really think about it, I just picked what I liked.
Post # 15
@stuckinwonderland: Yes i think there is some matching that goes on, but not necessary a matchy-matchy thing. For example, at one point were were going to go to our favoriate local Italian restaurant as our reception. There is no privat room, you sit next to other patrons, it’s small. My all lace gown with a cathedral length train just did not seem right, or the tafetta ball gown I bought either. I needed something more sheath like or elegant, but not over the top.
Then the wedding was outside in a field with sage brush. Lace and tulle were not working, but the tafetta ballgown would.
My venue changed so many times, which is how I ended up with 5 dresses.
Post # 16
Our reception is in a german-style microbrewery and I’m not wearing dirndl, so…no.
🙂 I’m wearing an a-line/ballgown dress, and our ceremony is in a historic greenhouse, but I just went with what I liked.