- 4 years ago
So, I have a sister who’s 11 years older than me- we never had much of a relationship until after I turned 21, mostly due to the fact that we had nothing in common until then. Now, the past 5ish years, we’ve built a relationship where she feels more like a sister to me instead of an acquaintance. FYI, she’s a very jealous person, so it can be hard to deal with some of her antics, but she’s my sister so no matter what I still love her and want to make sure she’s okay.
I also have a cousin, who’s been like a sister to me all my life. We grew up together, we’re bestfriends, and she’s always been there for me- all the times my sister hasn’t.
In order to honor both of them, I was going to ask my sister to be my matron of honor and my cousin to be my maid of honor. In all honesty, I just want my cousin to be my maid of honor, but the drama that would ensue and the breaking of cultural norms for my family for not asking my sister to be my matron of honor would not be worth it (even though I wasn’t maid of honor for her wedding).
How do you all think I should I should go about telling my sister that I’m going to have another maid of honor aside from her? She’s specifically said to me “If you ask anyone but me to be your Maid/Matron of Honor I’m going to freak the f*** out”.