Post # 1
Ok, so my best friend is my sister, like many of you I imagine. So when I got engaged, the first person I told was my closest sister. Of course, her being my best friend, I blurted without thinking that I wanted her to be my Matron of Honor. Well, normally, there wouldn’t be anything wrong with this, best friend, sister, the problem lies in the fact she lives about 10 hours away from me. She works two jobs and goes to school and takes care of my nephews. My friend that actually lives here has been helping me with all kinds of wedding stuff. I am thinking of having two matrons of honors, but I do not know the etiquette in asking my sister if it’s ok. My other two bridesmaids, also live 10 hours away.
What would be the best course for this situation that I got myself into, without stepping on any toes?
Post # 3
Have them both as matron of honor. If you explain to your sister that your friend has been really good to you, and you’d like to recognise that as part of the wedding, she should understand, as your sister and best friend.
Post # 4
I had a similar situation. My sister lives 3 hours away and has 2 kids and a full time job. She wasn’t able to help with any wedding stuff, attend my bridal shower or bachelorette. She was still super excited and super supportive of me though.
My best friend, on the other hand, lives close by and was able to participate in everything. She coordinated my shower and bachelorette and helped with DYI projects and dress shopping. She was really amazing.
I made both of them Maid/Matron of Honor. Both were excited and neither felt slighted. My best friend still included my sister in all of her ideas and planning even though my sister couldn’t offer much help. They worked really well together. On the day of, they both were introduced into the ceremony as Maid/Matron of Honor and they both gave speeches. It worked out beautifully.
Post # 5
I had two matrons of honor — both of my best friends. One lived nearby and was able to assist me, while the other lived more than ten hours away. It was very important to me to have both of these special women honored in this manner.
I would grant that honor to your dear friend as well as to your sister. However, I would allow your sister to stand closest to you during the ceremony.
Post # 6
I would make them both Maid/Matron of Honor if you’re going to make any changes. Taking the title from your sister would be rude and hurtful. I’d make sure you explan to your sister why you’re adding a second Maid/Matron of Honor now, though, because if I were in her position, I’d be hurt if I didn’t know why.
Post # 7
I didn’t name any maid of honor and listed all six bridesmaids in the program as Maids of Honor.
Post # 8
Thank you everyone! you have helped me and I asked my friend and she said she would be my second Maid/Matron of Honor, and my sister was actually ok with it! Thank you!