Post # 1
Hi, I just became Ordained and decided to marry my younger sister on her big day.
I have enough time to get prepared as she is not getting married till next year.
I am also the Matron of Honor and am walking down the isle. is there anything wrong with doing so? is it weird?
I only ask because several people have negative thoughts and feel that the ceremony should be blessed although she is not having a church wedding or a priest attend.
Post # 3
I attended a ceremony once where a family member had gotten ordained just for that wedding, and while they were not a member of the bridal party, it was one of the most awkward ceremonies I’d seen, because the family member had never performed a wedding before. She had to constantly refer to her notes, and after the first few minutes started to use them as a crutch, and ended up just reading the ceremony from her papers. You could tell she was really uncomfortable and not in control of things. I think it really took away from the ceremony, and I felt bad for the bride and groom. It was a bit of a train wreck.
I personally don’t think oyu need a priest or a blessing, but I think many folks are not cut out for the public speaking aspect, as it can be a lot more intimidating than you think once you’re up there in front of 40 or 140 people or how many. If you’re going to take this role on, be absolutely certain you can do a good job, from memory, without notes, and try to get some public speaking experience before the big day. Perhaps there’s a Toastmasters group in your area where you can spend a little time practicing.
Post # 4
You don’t have to do the ceremony from memory.
All the weddings I have been to the pastor or the person performing the ceremony have had a book or program to read from. Just type up the words you want to say, print them out on some beautiful paper and then give them to your sister as a keepsake.
I think it would be a very lovely way to show your sister that you love her and her soon to be husband! You can walk in as her Maid/Matron of Honor then step up to the officiant spot and watch her walk down the aisle.
And you can do a blessing! Any one can offer up a prayer to God! That is our right if we believe in in Him!
Post # 5
Thank you all the comments!
Miss Redneck, I appreciate it! I believe the same thing!! 🙂