(Closed) Matron/Maid of honor…anyone NOT have one? a little upset…:(

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1776 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My suggestion- leave them all as brides maid OR make your two sister Maids of Honor.  There is nothing that says you cannot have two.  I agree that asking the high school friend would be awkward.  No reason your sisters cannot plan a speech together and flip a coin for who signs the certificate. 


(just a note, you only need a witness to sign the marriage certificate, does not have to be a maid or matron of honor, and a speech is certainly optional.  Many people have have Maid/Matron of Honor do not even have a speech/toast from that person)


Good luck!

Post # 4
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I don’t have a maid/matron of honor!!  I have 3 bridesmaids.  Fiance has 5 groomsmen and no Best Man.  Neither of us could decide who would get the honor so we just skipped it!  We don’t want speeches/toasts so we aren’t concerned about that aspect either.

My really good friend (also a BM) was expecting the Maid of Honor title and was kind of put off that I don’t have one.  But now its kind of a running joke that she is the “unofficial Maid of Honor”.

Post # 5
41 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

I do not have a maid of honour.  I have two bridesmaids (my best friend and my fiance’s best friend) and he has a bestman (his brother).  We are a lopsided wedding party, but we don’t care!  🙂

Post # 6
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

my cousins had like 4 bridesmaids and then BOTH her sister’s were Maids of Honor… they were escorted by his best man who was his brother.. it was cute.  all 3 gave speeches.

Post # 7
3620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have four bridesmaids, none of which are designated as “maid of honor” – and Fiance has a best man! It’s not a big deal. Technically they’re all “of honor” since they’re the ones I asked to be a part of our day, right? Haha!

Post # 8
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Private home

I originally had three bridesmaids and a maid of honor, but unfortunately the Maid/Matron of Honor could not make the wedding, so I just had three bridesmaids to my hubby’s four groomsmen (though he had a best man)

Post # 9
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I refuse to pick favorites so I have three bridesmaids (two friends from high school, one from college). FH will have a best man and two groomsmen. We’re limiting speeches and will probably flip a coin for the witness (or use our officiant’s wife).

To determine walking order I’m going by height- one friend is significantly shorter than the rest so she is walking with the shortest guy, but my two other friends are exactly the same height, so whoever has the higher heels walks with the best man.

Post # 10
1154 posts
Bumble bee

You do not have to have one.  Your mom can sign the wedding certificate – or anyone you would like.  Speeches – likewise.

I have a Maid/Matron of Honor but only an Maid/Matron of Honor, no one else, that worked for me, you should do what works for you.

Post # 11
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I dont have a Maid/Matron of Honor. and Im a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding with no Maid/Matron of Honor only BM’s.

Post # 12
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

I like the idea of making both of your sisters the maids of honor. There’s no set rule out there saying you can only have one or that you HAVE to have one. Is one of your sisters married and the other not? If that’s the case, one maid, one matron. If they’re both married or both not married, then have the older one sign the marriage certificate as the witness. Definitely do what works for you though…you certainly don’t need to have one if it makes you uncomfortable choosing!

Post # 13
3997 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d probably ask my sisters to share the responsibilities.  They can both act as maids/matrons of honor.  Its your wedding day, you can do whatever you wanna do.  Having 2 might be good, it will allow each to be involved in the planning of events but not overwhelmed by it all.

Post # 14
704 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t have a maid or matron of honor.  I refused to choose between them all so they’re all equal players in party planning and such.  I’m having everyone stand in  order that I’ve known them longest.

Post # 15
759 posts
Busy bee

I agree with the PPs – either go without or have both of your sisters be MOHs.  If I didn’t have a sister, and since I don’t have a best friend, I wouldn’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor either.

Post # 16
552 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor. 5 bridesmaids… but I never asked any of them to be Maid/Matron of Honor. They are all stepping up and splitting responsibilities equally. My Fiance also has 5 attendants, but one of them is designated as the best man.  I don’t really see this as a problem. We are going to pair the attendants according to who would get along the best, not “order of importance”.

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