(Closed) Mature Bridesmaid Dresses

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

The answer to the “is it too much” is going to depend on each family. I will warn you that, with kids that young, you will probably have at least one who is having a meltdown or otherwise not cooperating. My nephew was 20 months at our wedding and was our requisite “cute kid” in the bridal party. He made it down the aisle just fine, with his Mum (my SIL/MOH) coaching him. But for the ceremony itself it was game over. He was so overstimulated that my brother had to take him out of the room. So yeah, with little ones, be prepared to have one parent totally miss the ceremony.

As for dresses, I would just tell your Wedding Party to find a knee length black dress and let them go from there. Honestly, it is the easiest kind of dress to find at any time of year, the style and size options are varied, it looks pulled together, and each lady will be able to get another wear or 50 from the dress in the future.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If you do want to include the whole family it might be a nice gesture for you to offer to buy the flower girls dresses.  Have you thought thought just letting the male attendants wear black suits they already own? That’s another wa. You could reduce the costs for them.

There are a ton of bridesmaids options.  With a group that large you may want to pick a color & fabric and let them select their own style.  I can’t imagine shopping with that many women.

My maids, age 17 & 40, both found something they liked from Eden.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@EliBee:  When I was 10, I was a junior bridesmaid in my aunt’s wedding. My brother (who was 5 at the time) was the ring bearer, and my mom and dad were best man and Maid/Matron of Honor (and they were 35 at the time).

It seemed to work out well for my aunt and uncle, and it helped that my parents were there. Plus the fact the rest of my extended family was there was also a big help. If any of the kids were acting up, an aunt, uncle or grandparent could take care of them as needed, so as not to disrupt the rest of the bridal party

With respect to the dresses, you may want to tell your bridesmaids a specific designer, fabric and colour, and let them pick (and potentially alter) a dress that suits them best. This is what I am doing with my bridal party, and we are all in our 20’s.

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hi EliBee,

I can definitely relate to your “too much” concerns, I come from a large family and so does my fiance. We’re both the youngest of four and three siblings, respectively, and between the two of us, we have 15 nieces and nephews all under the age of 10!

For me and for my fiance, it was much too hard to leave any of the children out. We just can’t pick and choose. So, we are having them all “in” the wedding but not being *too* formal about it. For example, the older girls (age 6-10) will all be wearing the same dress that is a bit more mature, and the babies (age 2-3) will be wearing very sweet ivory flower girl dresses. All of the boys will be in little tuxes.

We are literally going to have them all enter the church together and go down the aisle as a group. It’s not going to be a formal procession for them, more just like a grand entrance to make them feel special, which they are. Then they’ll all take seats with their fathers / those who aren’t in the wedding party thereafter. My three nephews actually may walk my mom down the aisle too! Which I think would be so sweet.

The point of putting them all in the the same dress is mainly for the pictures. I’m pretty particular about sticking to my color scheme and I’d like a cohesive feel when the kids are in the photos. Having them all in the same dress 1) makes them feel like they are part of the party 2) makes them excited to be “twins” with their cousins and 3) looks great!

Here is the dress we are considering for the older girls, right now: http://pinterest.com/pin/532058143447006682/

I ordered one to see how it looks in person before ordering the rest. We’ll see!

Good luck and congrats!

vanessadnyc

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My Future Sister-In-Law and Future Brother-In-Law will both be in our wedding and their children are our ring bearers – they are all very excited! It will depend on the family what they can handle both physically and financially. Talk to them about it see how they feel. 

As for designers with many options, I would suggest Dessy and Alfred Sung – you can choose a fabric and color and there are sooooo many designs that I’m sure you could find a few that would match their ages and body types. 

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