Post # 1
I just can’t believe I’m getting married in a month and a half!
Wondering who else is a May ’16 bride. 🙂 we are so close!
How long was your engagement? What do you wish you had known at the beginning of planning? What has been the hardest part? The best part? What do you have left to do? Do you feel ready?
Post # 2
Omg it’s crazy! May 14th here, our engagement will be a year almost exactly as we got engaged May 13th 2015! I wish I’d known how insane weddings make people, especially mothers…and all the unwritten etiquette ‘rules’ that seem to bounce out of nowhere. The hardest part has definitelt been dealing with my mum, I think us being at opposite ends of the country make her try extra hard to be overbearing. The best parts have been marriage prep course with Fiance, seeing my dress take shape (it’s been a DIY alterations project) and spending time with my bridesmaids. All we have left to do is finalise table plan, design and print table names and signs for the reception, plus book a photo booth and videography now we’ve got enough left in the budget!
Post # 3
I’m a May 14th bride too. I’m so excited!!!
Post # 4
A week later than PPs but a May 21 bride here. We’ve been engaged since August 2013 — so I’me MORE than ready. I still have a couple small things to do (signage, escort cards, finishing collecting RSVPs) but we’re mostly there.
What I wish I’d have known: I joke with my FH that I’ve reached #YOLO stage where I’ve just stopped sweating the small stuff. We have everything in place where no matter what happens on May 22nd we’ll be married and getting ready to go on our honeymoon. I wish I would have known at the beginning of planning to get to this point sooner and enjoy being engaged.
Hardest Part: Budgeting by a landslide. I have an elaborate spreadsheet and it still didn’t account for all the last minute expenses that have started adding up.
Best Part: Dance lessons with Fiance. It was a fun way to unwind and laugh at each other — while bonding over learning something new.
Post # 5
May 21st here! Coming fast! Our engagement will be about 17 months by the time we get married. I wish I would have known how much drama weddings brought on! I would have chosen someone else to be a bridemaid, instead of my sister (tons of drama) but glad that part is over with. My favorite part of planning was getting to make the decisions with my fiancé (flowers, limo, attire). We had a lot of fun together with those parts. But keeping my dress a secret from him is killing me! Lol
Post # 6
May 21st here! We got engaged Jan. 2016. Started planning the first week of March and got the crazy idea to plan a wedding in 3 months!
Wish I would’ve known how much drama my mother was going to cause. Hardest part has been the time crunch. Best part has been how supportive my fiance has been and the romance of it all! I still have to send out invitations and book a band -crazy, I know.
Invites go out next week. We need to get all the little details nailed down, but it’s been going rather smoothly. Eeek!
Post # 7
I’m a May bride too! I’ve got quite a bit left to do- I even tweaked my colour scheme by adding another colour only this week! 😉 I still need to work a lot on decor and table plans. I haven’t sorted accessories for anyone yet- the mens’ ties, bridesmaids’ shoes/jewellery, my veil and accessories are still to be done….and I’m totally confused over what look I’m going for. I Iove my dress and shoes but they leave space to go very classic or very boho or anything…and I can’t decide! I’m pretty into style and fashion but just can’t work this one out!! I’m edging towards more boho.
I had about 8 months. Reckon I could have done it in 5 logistically but 8 was perfect! No regrets or ‘wishes I’d known’. I’m excited about it and my only big worry is that it will all go too quickly.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
May 2nd here. It’s a holiday day in UK so no one has to take time off work.
Had my final dress fitting today and I feel so comfortable in the dress, can sit down easily and it’s the perfect length now so very happy with that.
Wish I’d known that just because I would do anything to be at my friend’s weddings doesn’t mean it would be reciprocated. I’ve taken days off work and stayed in expensive hotels but because I’m having a no kids except immediate family kids (just 2) I’ve lost one friend over it and other’s have made it known how much trouble they are going to in being there.
Wish I’d known that I would field a million ridiculous questions that I’d never bug a bride with e.g “what time will your first dance be as we’ll be going home after that.”
Wish I’d known I wouldn’t have an “oh my God I look amazing” flooded with tears moment when I found my dress.
Loved the kind words from (generally older) people I have invited. Generosity from some of our family and friends has been overwhelming. You really do find out what people think of you when planning a wedding!
Our engagement has been 18 months.
I’ve got the order of service, printing of seating plan and place cards left to do. Also just the usual manicure and eyebrows appts a couple of days before.
Can’t believe in just over 3 weeks time I’ll have a husband!
Post # 9
Another May 21st bride here! We have been engaged for a looooong 19 months, making it over 20 by the time we get married (we got engaged in September 2014). We moved from New York to North Carolina last year…we tried to get all the big things done up there (as thats where we are getting married) before we left…but we have been traveling up north almost once a month since we left. Its nice to see family a lot…but I am looking forward to not having to go up quite as often for just a Saturday! So that’s definitely been the hardest part. We are in the home stretch waiting for 19 RSVPs to come back. We need to make escort cards and centerpieces so we need to know who is coming! Its been quite stressful. Other than that…our engagement has been pretty easy. We haven’t had too much drama and we’ve enjoyed all the fun events and things we’ve gotten to do.
At this point we are DONE and can’t wait for it to be here! I don’t want to make any more decisions and I just want to be married already haha. Good luck ladies! We’re almost there!
Post # 10
May 28th bride here! We have been engaged almost a year and a half. I’m alternating between nervous and excited as the time draws closer. is anyone else nervous? I think it’s just because I am doing everything on my own pretty much and am scared I’ve forgotten something or won’t implement it correctly.
Post # 11
May 7th bride here! We have almost everything done other than finishing centerpieces, the wedding program and ordering some extra flowers to put in our centerpieces! We’ll be engaged about 17 months by the time we get married 🙂 almost 3 weeks away!!
Post # 12
May 14 is our big day! Tick Tock is what I am constantly hearing in my head! We were engaged Feb 2015 and start planning within a month of that. There really isnt anyting that has surprised me or that I wish I would have known earlier. The hardest part was meal choices, I can barely decide what I am going to eat much less other people at mutliple functions. The best part was when my dress actually fit. I dont have anyting left to do except pack. We are having a destination wedding and I am definitely ready!
Post # 13
May 15th here! I have a countdown clock on my phone and am checking it constantly.
Engagement time: Our engagement was ~9 months long and it was a perfect length of time. I wish I had taken fewer classes in grad school at the beginning to plan more of our wedding earlier on.
Hardest part: The hardest part has absolutely been seeing lots of people having a weird idea about weddings sometimes, I think due to their own personal insecurities.
Best part: The best part has been how close it has brought my love and I together during this tough process. I feel like we can now weather any storm.
Our to-do list: We still need a florist, and my makeup trial was such a disaster, I want to do my own makeup now and need to figure that out.
Are we ready? I’m sure though, that we will be ready enough to have a great time when the big day comes.
Post # 14
May 1st! Four days away!!
We’ve been engaged for just over a year. It’s also been almost exactly three years since we started dating.
The hardest part, right now, is my grandmother telling me she’s not attending. I’m heartbroken, because she’s 83, and it’s really unlikely she’ll be around for any of my other big life events. I’m going to miss her so much on Sunday.
The best part has been the menu tasting, I think! I had so much fun, and I’m so excited about how delicious our food is going to be. I’ve also had a blast putting together my bridesmaids’ gift bags.
With four days left to go, I have minor things like getting my nails done and having our rings cleaned. We also need to finish our playlist and make a decision about the father/daughter & mother/son dance. So… lots of little things that I write down on a master list so I don’t drive myself crazy thinking about it (I drive myself crazy, anyway).
We’re ready! The running gag between me and my fiance is that we can’t wait until May 2nd!
Post # 15
May 7th Bride here. May 2nd we actually fly to Puerto Rico from Florida and will be there for about a week. I cant believe there is not much time left 🙁
How long was your engagement? We got engaged July 2014 (too lazy to calculate!)
What do you wish you had known? How hard it would be to plan something outside of your location. Since we are not going the traditional destination route (beach wedding/wedding in touristy area) it has been so much harder to get things done with the language barrier and the fact that I can never seem to reach people and I had to be creative in finding vendors. I realized I am not a planner. Details and timelines stress me out.
What has been the hardest part? Accepting the fact I will not have the cake I want (MIL booked a friend to do the cake who has been so rude and she has no pictures, cannot communicate and seems to not care what I would like- Mother-In-Law paid without consulting so I have had to learn to let go). Also, it has been a hard process finding vendors and getting things in order. I am used to getting things done- I call and get an answer or I do things online. But over there I have had to rely on other people and family members to try to get things done.
The best part? The excitement of getting married, finding my dress, the fact that I will have my best friends coming with me to Puerto Rico, my daughter is very very excited for this wedding too (she is 6) and my Fiance is not her biodad!
What do you have left to do? I feel like everything has to be done lol. I have quite a bit to do in the next 2 weeks:
- Pay off the cabins we will be staying at
- Renting a car for the week in PR
- Finding and scheduling nails and eyebrow appointment (if I can find a brazilian wax place that would be ideal too)
- Dealing with the itinerary (I was told that the venue we booked closes at midnight, last week I found out they close by 10pm! and my DJ is booked until 11pm!- we will be going over there to try to talk to someone directly next week)
- Getting the food menu confirmed (we have to wait until we get there)
- “Cake Tasting”- eyeroll* trying the cake 2 days before the actual wedding. regardless of if its good or not we do not have much choice in the cake anyways
- Practicing the waltz (for the first dance)
- Trying to schedule a hair trial while I am there in PR :-/
- Makeup trial with my SIL this weekend
Most things have to be when I go to PR anyways which is why we will be there a few days before to be able to manage what we can get done.
Do you feel ready? Honestly, not at all. I just feel massively overwhelmed and behind but I just accepted that I do not have the same sort of control as I would have over here. I am by no means a control freak and do not live by order and timelines, but the feeling of complete chaos sucks. I should have hired a wedding planner. But I am sure it will come together even if there has been so many bumps in the road.