(Closed) May have to sell my dress and lose out on all my deposits…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hi!  HUGS!

As one whose family is similar to his, and my FI’s family is like yours and totally awesome!  It’s really nice to be like we’ll I’m inviting everyone on both sides, should you choose not to put aside your selfish reason to celebrate with us it’s your loss – and to focus on the positivity of his side of the family. 

Maybe he is being truthful saying to move foward and that he’s closer to your side.  Try to focus on the positive!

Post # 4
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743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It will be OK!!  🙂  That is such a bummer that the family drama is so…dramatic!  BUT, the day is about you two….maybe you guys need to sit down with each faction of the family and mention that this is a day of celebrating your love for each other and you hope they can be adult enough to set aside any personal issues with other guests.  Don’t sell your dress and cancel all your bookings – I am sure many of your friends and family would be bummed if not hurt if you two just eloped…. hang in there, it will get better!

Post # 7
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Like you said it’s about the two of you!  I understand it’s disheartening, but why does it matter if someone (unless that someone is you or your FI) isn’t happy about the wedding – either the event itself or the marriage?

Everything will work out the way it’s supposed to!

Post # 9
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824 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

I’m sorry you’re having to go through this.  I hope everything works out!

Post # 10
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153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had a similar situation. A lot of my family threatened not to come because I’m having where I live, which is in a different state than all of them. His family also did the same. My parents just encouraged me to do what we wanted. If they really wanted to be there, they will, if not, oh well. It may sound mean, but it’s your day!  You have to be ready for the indecisiveness of the guests up to the last minute, though. I’m still battling this. We’ve gone from estimating too many people to now wondering if we’ll hit our minimum required. I guess it’s the price you pay to have the wedding of your dreams, but looking back, I don’t regret one minute of it. I think if I were to give in to what everyone else wanted, I would have regretted it in the long run. Now you just need the support of your Fiance. I had the support of my Fiance most of the time. Of course we would get bummed out, but we got through it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@shyne2060:

Oh I am sorry about the drama.  Hang in there!  Just be a rock for each other.  It will be okay. Make the day what you want, and whoever comes is who you get. 

Post # 14
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Don’t give up your dreams because of people and their painful but ridiculous quarrels! Keep on trucking! You are planning your dream wedding! You and your man are creating a new life together! If people want to fight about your guest list or any other list for that matter, that’s their own problem. You stick with your dream and enjoy your day and don’t look back! (I wrote this for me too! I spent last night in tears over my mom’s and Future Mother-In-Law list of demands and questions. It’s rough, but I can’t let them take this day away from me and my man!)

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sit down and talk to him about your feelings. Find out where he stands and what he wants you to do…seriously.  I had to do this a few times with my Fiance.

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